I have a feeling that my wife my be having an afair with a co-worker of her's. When I check her cell phone records I have noticed that on a daily basis she has been calling a male co-worker at a differnt work location.Should I confront her about this or just keep an eye on this situation ?
2007-04-16 07:48:18 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guarantee that if you confront her it will create a big arguement. I suggest, lay back...keep your eyes open, and give her just enough rope to hang herself. Unless you have some real good evidence...I would build my case up first before confronting her.
2007-04-16 07:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Ed 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I think I would do my best to not say anything for a while, and REALLY keep an eye out. Are you having problems in your marriage? You will be more likely to find out for sure, if you wait and see for yourself. If you ask her, you might tip her off and she might just continue, but be much more careful. If she isn't doing anything wrong, then you haven't put a strain on your relationship by accusing her. I would just ride it out, and keep investigating. Make sure she is where she says she is going to be, and maybe even give her some time alone, to where she could do something if there was something going on, and come home early, or not go where you say you are going, and watch the house or her or whatever. Also, check credit card statements, home phone calls, new clothes, always wearing makeup or dressed cuter for work than normal, anything like that. Good luck!!
2007-04-16 15:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know; this person could just be a friend. I have a male friend from high school I kept in contact with, and he's married. I have no romantic interest in him whatsoever, but we used to call each other to chat often.
I think the bigger issue here is the lack of trust. Intuition definitely counts for something, but the "evidence" you've got doesn't immediately point out a cheating wife.
Here's my advice: Take your wife and see a professional marriage counselor. This kind of lack of trust doesn't happen over nothing; you've probably got some legitimate things to discuss with your wife, and a counselor can help you be able to talk to her about it in a way that won't alienate her.
Best of luck in saving your marriage!
2007-04-16 15:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the cell phone records all you have? I'm 40 and married. I call my co workers all the time (they are mostly all male) and I'm not cheating. In fact my best friend of 25 years is a guy and I speak to him everyday. Look for more evidence, late getting home, not being where she says she is and most important how she acts at home
2007-04-16 14:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by Girly1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I would keep an eye on the situation. This way, if you see things or anything like that, behavior changes etc. that can be substantial proof. If I have to confront someone about something, I want proof somehow, you should start keeping records (trust me, you might need to) if things go to far. Then when you're ready you'll have what you need. She'll either decide what she wants to do and be angry, or be angry and leave; you know what I mean? But you have a right to know either way =)
2007-04-16 14:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is for those who can love eachother unconditionally, for the mature, for the honest and there is no room for jealousy and communication is part of the whole, if you have these things love can withstand any obsticals and any illusions and trust is there. But both must have the will and have the desire to want a lasting relationship -you can start off by syaing o.k. this is what we'll do but if one of you lacks the giving of these things you are back to square one. Communication must also go as far as dicussing s_x with one another, if you can not be honest or tell your spouce that strange has been on your mind then problems will arise!!! If you know what I mean, if you can't talk about s_x with your spouce then who can you talk to about it with... An open mind helps as well as being best friends...
2007-04-16 14:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Speak with her about it and be ready to hear what you don't want to b/c it very well could be cheating. Some thing is lacking for her in your relationship or she would not be calling another man any way. If he was her friend from before you and she continued that friendship then it might not be cheating but this has started since you so be aware. Sorry but I don't think it is going to be a simple friendship. You should be her friend!
2007-04-16 14:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Dayla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's sad that you have to check her phone records at all. In a marriage there should be trust. You may want to think twice about being with this person.
2007-04-16 14:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT CONFRONT HER....if something is going on, that will give her a heads up to cover her tracks. You need to get into her email to find out what's really going on. If you are thinking of leaving if something is going on, it may also be worth it to hire a PI.
I sure wish I would've instead of confronting my exwife. By confronting her, it gave her the heads up to go delete the emails and text messages. If I had hired the PI, I would've had the pictures I needed to nail her in divorce court.
2007-04-16 14:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have a feeling then talk to her about it, but don't go snooping around all the time because your imagination will get the best of you. If you two do not trust each other, then you shouldn't be together.
2007-04-16 15:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋