I really want to and also i hope when 18 I can get out of my house.
2007-04-16 07:47:49 · 23 answers · asked by playboygirl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
At 17 you don't know what love really is sweetie. You don't know if you will stay together, etc... At 17, you're not mature enough to raise a child. Yes it's done by girls everyday, but not without struggle. You need to make a life for yourself and become able to support yourself before bringing a baby into this world.
2007-04-16 07:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why not get the house, job, bank account and life experience first. In dec of 1994 I turned 18, found out I was pregnant on the same day. I got married feb of 95, Graduated high school in June 95 and had a baby in August of 05. Yes there are teen moms out the who can do it. The ones who have to work for every last little thing will tell you it's not the best idea. Teen who have parents who care for their grandchild like it's their own will tell you it's great. I would'nt give up my boys for anything, but it was really hard to tell my friends I couldn'
t go out. It was really hard to go without buying myself things because we didn't have money and needed diapers and formula. Do yourself a favor, Get a job. Save some money, maybe get married over the next few years and when you're really ready then have a baby.
2007-04-16 08:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I hope when 18 I can get out of my house."
THAT is the problem. Age, as they say, is just a number. It's about maturity and security when it comes to having a kid, and you're missing atleast one of those.
You need a stable job that pays the bills before having a child. If you have one while still at home iwth the parents, then the GRANDPARENTS are giving the baby security, not the PARENTS.
If you feel teh baby bug, set a goal for yourself. Perhaps in 2 years you can have a job making X amount, havae X amoutn in savings, and be paying yoru bills and NOT living paycheck to paycheck.
A wedding ring is always nice too.
2007-04-16 07:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would wait! Whats the rush. Your way to young. How are you gonna pay for things? Babies are expensive. I have two ot them! You should finish school and go to college. Having a baby is a big responsibility! If i were you i would finish school get a career and a house of my own and then think about having a baby. You being 17 (no offense), but your not ready.
2007-04-16 07:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by nici22333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i don't understand is why CHILDREN want to have children... You have a lot of living to do yet... Sadly you may grow up and resent the fact that you had a child that young... Yes he may be the love of your life... and you may stay together... But you aren't financially stable if you are living with your parents... You really should be on your own first.. Preferrably married.. with a steady income... Babies aren't like puppydogs... They need lots of love and attention... they need you 24/7 sleep becomes a luxury, peace n quiet... whats that? My sister is law keeps saying Z"i want one, i want one" One what? You want a BABY YOu want a FAMILY you want a good job... Their not just toys you know... that you can flaunt to your friends... they are a part of you and will go everywhere you go... Yes they will love you... But There is ALOT to having a baby.... If you think we're all wrong... then honestly you aren't quite mature enough to have a baby... You can e-mail me and i wouldn't mind talking to you:) catzclawzz@yahoo.com
2007-04-16 08:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 17 and married then it is fine. However, you still live at home and it doesn't appear as though you and the "love of your life" are married therefore NO you shouldn't have a child. Out of respect for yourself and your parents wait until you move out and are married. Then you know your child will have a stable home to grow up in. You will also be more prepared to raise a child if you just wait awhile. You'll learn things over your waiting period. And, you will also get closer to the one you love if you wait and get more prepared together.
2007-04-16 08:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's bad to have a baby before you are married and have a house and a stable job. How are you going to support this baby? Live your life, and have fun! Once you have a baby, the fun is over. If you don't believe me, try caring for an infant for just 24 hours.
2007-04-16 07:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you think it is your love for life and it may be but things change. I thought I had my love for life, we began dating when I was 14 and got married when I was 21, a year later we were divorced. No kids. I am now 32 have been married to the true love of my life for 6 1/2 years and we have 3 wonderful kids. Things change in your life even when you do not expect them to. Wait. I am so grateful I did not have children with my first husband.
2007-04-16 07:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is the love of your life now does not mean he will be later. You are still young. Finish school, get a job, move out on your own, then get married and think about children. Trust me doing things in this order makes much more sense.
2007-04-16 08:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by PharmNerd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can I say to convince you you will be jumping out of the house and into housework?
What do you think a baby will do for you? Cook, clean, make a living, pay the rent?
Hell no, you will be spending your time taking care of the baby, not going out, and partying, or studying.
Statistics show that 42% unmarried teens who have babies never rise above the poverty level. Is that what you want, a bunch of dead end jobs that limit you and constant worries about day care and their sniffles?
And your "Love for Life", hes going to fade out so quickly you will swear you got pregnant and had this baby by yourself.
Don't believe me....please....read the endless questions here about" how he left me" " He promised me forever and now he calls me a ho" " How could he say the baby's not his" and on and on and on.
Its not just bad, hon, its awful.... for you.
2007-04-16 07:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋