2007-04-16 07:40:05 · 13 answers · asked by blondenbeautiful515 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im getting married when i'm 20 and he's 29 is that bad?
2007-04-16 07:58:35 · update #1
i know you all are thinking that i'm too young for someone his age but i'm as mature as him.. i act like i'm 25..
2007-04-16 08:13:00 · update #2
Well i'm 25 and my fiance' is 43.
Nothing is wrong with that. You are an adult. if you were 16 and he was 29 that would be an issue. As long as your happy, age is nothing but a number. Enjoy your life and dont worry about what others say or think. your true friends will be supportive and the fake ones will reveal themselves.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-04-16 08:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young. You are not yet a fully formed human being. These are your hormones talking.
Besides, if you two are truly 'in love,' your love will stand the test of time. Because then it will not be infatuation. Then it will be the kind of love where if one of you, God forbid, were paralyzed due to a car accident, the other one would gladly spend the next 20 or 30 years caring for him/her, earning a living, with the burden of doing everything. That means all those mundane chores such as paying the bills, worrying about where the money is going to come from, doing the laundry, preparing meals, cleaning up the place (remember, the other mate is incapacitated so you are doing all this by yourself). There will be no moonlight and roses and romance then. That can disappear quickly in the harsh glare of reality. Can you be that kind of mature individual, and by that I mean not just for a day or a week, but for decades?
You are too young at 20. Live some life first. You will meet hundreds of new people in college and later in the workplace. You are not yet ready for marriage.
2007-04-16 15:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you mean..... I would say if you mean the difference in age of the two people getting married like a 20 year old and a 36 year old... then I would say no it doesn't matter... Love has no age limits. If you mean you want to get married at like the age 16 or something then I would say you aren't really ready to be married because you will not be mature enough to take on the responsibilities (more than likely).
2007-04-16 14:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by boomboombaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because spelling counts (your should be you're).
Your brain isn't even fully developed until you are mid-20s. There is something wrong with him that he doesn't want a mature woman. The age difference wouldn't be a problem if you were 28 and he were the nine years older.
You need to get some post-secondary education, start a career, live out on your own independently, pay rent and bills and live the reality of life. Through maturity and life experience, you will then learn who you are and can then bring your best self to a marriage and a family.
Right now, not so much....
2007-04-16 16:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes and no. Maturity and commitment matter. That stuff usually comes with age but everyone is different. If you can see yourself committed to only this person for the rest of your life (that could mean 50 years) and you are willing to make compromises (because there will be plenty) then you should be ready for what life throws at you. Also, you should be confident that your husband to be has thought about these things also.
2007-04-16 14:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion age does not matter when it is true love. Every brother and sister in my family ( 7 altogether) has married an older person and only 2 have divorced. My brother is 45 and his wife just turned 60 they have been married 30 yrs and still in love. I am 41 and married to a 56yr old and we have been happily married for 18 yrs, age has nothing to do with it it is maturity.
2007-04-16 15:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by lisa y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean your minimum age or the difference in ages between you and a potential spouse? If you are talking about how old you feel you should be, it depends on your level of maturity. If you mean the other, than yes, I do think it matters if there is a large difference. It would be easier if spouses were from the same generation!!
2007-04-16 14:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not matter now but if you are 20 and he is 40 when you marry realize that when you are 50 he will be 70. A whole lot different when you look at it that way.
2007-04-16 14:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh yes..marry too young and you will practically insure failure. We all change so much in our lives, but no where as quickly as we do from our teens to our mid-twenties....our objectivity gets clouded easily with lust. All of us are like that. A few marriages actually survive a young wedding, but not many.
2007-04-16 14:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If you haven't lived long enough to know what life and commitment is about, you probably aren't ready to be married.
2007-04-16 14:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by Nunya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋