I love my wife. She is the mother of my son. I do not agree with anything that she is. If I left her it would hurt my son. I cannot hurt my son. This is how I justify staying with her. Am I going to end up going crazy having to constantly tolerate my wife?
2007-04-16 07:29:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont think I have an answer but I'm curious as to why you married her in the 1st place if you dont believe in her or anything she stands for? Did you ever?
What does she do that makes you say you just "tolerate" her?
What made you love her in the first place?
2007-04-16 09:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to please yourself first. Your son will be ok. My parents got divorce when I was 15 and my brother was 8 we are perfectly fine. Don't stay next to this woman because of your child. You are going to be miserable besides it wouldnt make you a bad father to ask for a divorce thats why there is joint custody so that you may spend time with your kids. My father has been great with us after my parents divorced I am now 24 but till I was 18 I would spend every weekend with my father. I am not the happiest that my parents are divorce but if thats what they wanted and it would make them happy then I was happy for them. And by the way your son will soon catch up and see whats really going on.
2007-04-16 14:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you sat down with her and tried to work on the things that you can not tolerate or have you just let them be your little secrets? She cant change what she doesnt know. Sit down with her be like honey we need to work on this, i dont want to leave you because i know how much it would hurt you and our son but I cant tolerate this anymore. Be sure to listen and if youve tried this maybe you just need to try and go on a mini vacation with out her maybe with some buddies get away and then realize how much you appreciate her if that doesnt work then maybe you wont be able to stay with her but I hope you can work things out!
2007-04-16 14:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Travis and Kelly C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about your situation first of all. Everyone probably has certain things that they do that annoy others, but if those things that she does are interfering with your life...its probably time to leave. Leading someone on is never a good idea. Plus, marriage is something you should be happy with....not have to "tolerate" whether you have kids or not.
2007-04-16 14:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to end up hurting your son more by staying with a woman that you only love because she gave you a son.
2007-04-16 14:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you tell yourself is the reasons why, if your not mentally or emotionaly lacking now you will be some day b/c being fulfilled in our lives creates mental, physical, and spiritual wellness/wholeness. Your situation is not fulfilling and will zap you of your energy sooner or later. At that point your child will be hurting more than if you take responsibility of your life now and give him time to deal.
2007-04-16 14:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Dayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up! She probably has to tolerate you too. Marriage is not 100% bliss. I cant stand some of the things my wife does, but the love I have for her keep us strong. Grow Up!
2007-04-16 14:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by bolt1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
please do everyone in your family a big favor and leave now...do not abandon your son, he will aclimate to the new situation quickly...just pay child support and see him as much as you can. Let your wife find someone who can love her...she deserves that, at least. And you deserve some peace. Your son deserves a father that is at peace. Good luck
2007-04-16 14:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You not doing anybody a favor by sticking around. It's probably unhealthy for everyone who isn't happy with the situation.
2007-04-16 15:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by DEBBIE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry her? Does she just tolerate you?
2007-04-16 14:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋