Do women who stay home with their children set a good example or a bad one and why?.?

Answer 1

Staying home to parent their kids ... as opposed to 10 hours at daycare? If you were the kid, which would you prefer?

Answer 2

There is nothing more admirable than a woman who stays home with the children. I'm talking about a homemaker, not a stay-at-home slob. A woman who maintains the household and nurtures the children is an excellent example of what a mother should be. Simultaneously, a woman who works, yet also keeps the home in order sets a fine example, as well. Some women have to work. Their husbands have died, or are physically unable to work. Others don't have husbands, so they must provide for their kids as well as take care of the home. Still others work to help pay the bills. These women can be just as good mothers and women who don't work.

Comparing the two is unfair, unless you know all of the circumstances.

Answer 3

I agree with so many of the answerers, especially Rosalind - and the words of Violet and Angel, for their kind words about SAHMs.
I think having a parent home (dad is fine, but it's more usually mom) is way more than just being a good example. I, like Rosalind, have two degrees and had a great career before having a baby. Once that babe was in our home, I knew I could not leave him for strangers to raise - WE had to do it, and do it well. It was our mission and our passion. We sacrificed greatly to do this, and my husband worked really hard to make it work - to eke out enough of a living so I could stay home, because I was the higher income earner previously. We just did without a lot of the time, living on 23 to 28K is really, really hard. We have no cable or satellite, rent nothing, use the library for stuff, no "toys" for entertainment, etc. Only reason we have the computer is we got it cheap from a charity and got a tax refund. Paying for lite internet is hard, but doable. It CAN be done, but a lot of moms or couples don't want to give up the extras to have a stay at home parent.
Our whole family has benefitted, not just the child.

Answer 4

They set an excellent example. I know all about money issues and how hard it is to make a living. However, most of used to wait until we could afford to stay home before we had children. You only have a very short time before they will be in school and gone from you for most of the day anyway.

Answer 5

I dont think that staying at home or not sets an example. I think it is the type of (for lack of better word) attention they get while at home. For example: If you have a mother that just sits on the couch and does nothing then that will be a bad example. If you have the mother that plays with her kid, fixes them a healthy lunch, and walks them to the park that would be a good example. I do think that a mother staying home with her children is better than sending them to day care in most cases. Unless the mother is a "deadbeat"

Answer 6

Any woman that is fortunate enough to be able to stay at home to raise their children deserves the highest praise possible. It is a job so, it's not like you are not working, you work 24/7 365. You do not have a 9-5 M-F job to report to, and you have no paycheck so to speak. Your hours will extend well into the late evening and start before the crack of dawn. You will continue to work on the weekends and on your vacations. But, the rewards are way worth the largest paychecks and longest paid vacations. You are investing time, knowledge, and more into our future, our countries future leaders, but you get to spend time, build bonds, make memories with the most important people in your lives while doing it. Yes, it sets a good example, it shows harder work then any other that they are likely to see you doing, it shows them that family is important and that they are worth the investment. It shows them that you are commited to your job, which is raising them to be the best possible people they can be. Not all of us are able to stay at home with our kids and these kids are also shown a good example of commitment, responsibility and hard work. We need a mixed variety of personality and backgrounds to make the world rounded. I sometimes wish that I could work outside the home, maybe those who do have more patients with their kids then us whom are with them 24/7 LOL. Grass is always greener right?

Answer 7

When I was little my mom stayed home. I don't know that it really set any type of example....but when I have kids I HOPE I will be able to stay home with them as well. I think there is something about being with your parents when you're little that helps you feel more secure.

Something that I think is more important is the health of children. I have a few friends with small children, and the ones who send their kids to daycare, their kids are almost ALWAYS sick. They go to the doctor like every other week, if not more often.

I just think it's better for kids to be raised by their parents, in their own homes. Just my .02

Answer 8

I dont think its about whether u work or not,but what kind of values u are setting.i think a big part of societys problem today is the fact that kids dont have a parent at home(mom or dad)Although i have 2 degrees i decided to stay home for a good part of my kids upbringing,i did not set a bad example.my 2 older children(boy and girl) both work and go to university.most of the problem is how others will say things like ,oh u just stay home? people try to make stay at home parents feel worthless.that negative outlook has to change.we should not be made to feel less for the choices and sacrifices we make for our family.

Answer 9

No, it shows their children that working is not important! Even if it is a part time job as soon as the first child reaches preschool - the children should see both parents work b/c when they are your age the price of living will be 20 x's higher and where wil there be if they think working isn't very important. Monkey see, mokey do they'll just think well mom didn't work why should I! or Dad collected unemployment every summer and it was o.k. for him- I want to too... If a child sees their parents as hard working they also will be hard workers - it is important for children to understand the imporatnce of working at an early age no later then 5!

Answer 10

I dont know how much my comment will mean being the only male to chime in but I was a stay at home Kid/latch key kid to a single mom..... Some things you just get as a Kid she HAS to work. I can truely say I never felt unloved or neglected though.... The problem is not working or not working its making sure you make TIME for your kids every single day and not letting them ever feal you put the job over them.... if you do take the job i suggest you make a time that NEVER changes for them preferably each of them a time where you listen and talk to them NOT AT THEM.... and if you keep it up no matter how mundain it seems will give them stability from a working parent and time to talk..... just one persons suggestion

Answer 11

My husband's ex wife refused to work and she was cheating on him left and right. He thought because she had no education, no goals, came from a massively dysfunctional home where she never knew her dad, that she would be 100% loyal and a team player. Boy does he ever regret meeting her! The guy she left my husband for recently dumped her and now she is homeless with a 4 year old that we will soon have custody of.

I believe a woman is incomplete without a 4 year degree or higher and a career. You can have it all-- my mother taught me that and I am living it as we speak.