My ex & I were 2gether 61/2 yrs. My daughter was 2 when we got 2gether. Now she just turnd 8 & I have 2 other children w/ my ex. I felt he always treatd my oldest a lil different, I know bcause she wasn't his. She's really attachd to his family, since the split he hasnt really made n e effort to take her when he comes for the other 2 on his weekends. He says he told her she can call him whenever but she never calls her. I try & ask him how he can treat her like this, she even calls him dad & he says its her fault bcause he said she could call him & doesnt. I try & xplain that shes 8 & he should b the one making her feel wantd. He even thru r 1 yr. old a b-day party & that day happen 2 get made at me & told me not to bring my oldst to the party, that she could go to the party I have for r baby. How can he b so heartless?? I recently felt like I want 2 try & make it wrk but the way hes treatd my oldest is eating @ me. Why wood I want 2 make it wrk w/ some1 like that right??
2007-04-16 06:53:04 · 8 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You even have to ASK????!!!
How did he treat her before the other two children were born? Was he kind and loving? If not, why in heaven's name would you hook up with a jerk like that?
Don't listen to his whining and excuses. Imagine! An adult claiming it is an 8-year old's fault because she doesn't call! How low can you get. A grown man trying to blame a child and use her as an excuse. Good grief - she just learned to read a couple of years ago. What a pathetic loser for a man. And you chose THAT to be the father of your children?!
What a cruel thing to do to that little child - any child. If I were taking kids somewhere I would NEVER ostracize a child from going along, not even if they were someone else's kids. He is obviously doing this to get back at you and punish you and doesn't give a damn what it's doing to your little girl. Imagine - using an innocent child to play his mind games. All he's interested in is his own ego. What a childish person. Actually it sounds like your little girl is more mature than he is!
You will have to come up with some alternatives because, sadly, this creep is not going to change. Stop letting him have contact with your daughter - that only opens her up to further hateful abuse from him. Perhaps she could go over to a friend's house (before he arrives) for a playday. Or you could make it a special day between you two (I mean you and your daughter!).
Stop whining and sniveling and abasing yourself and asking 'oh me, oh my, oh how can he be so heartless?" He is a completely cruel and abusive jerk. How can you even think of expecting decent behavior from him? He's shown you what he is. Your first priority now is the children and minimizing any and all exposure to such a terrible person.
2007-04-16 09:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly think that's so wrong! He is being very self fish. How can it be a 8 year old's fault. He is a jerk! Does she know her real father. Maybe she should tell him how she feels. I am very sorry what happen. If he shows he doesn't care after she talks to him,then he isn't worth it. You are a good mother.
I see he changed. He will get karma! Just be there for her and your other children. Just bring her spirits up. She has you its okay :) I hope it gets better .
2007-04-16 07:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by scoopie110 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The man has no heart what so ever...anyone who could do this to an innocent child is above cruel. Trust that he will get all he deserves in life, and you needn't be the one to deliver the blows. YOU spend the extra time with your little girl, YOU make her life filled with love...perhaps the void he has made will heal in time...let's hope it is not filled with pain and eventual baggage. To even think of getting back with a man like this is ludacrous..where is your mind? It is just a matter of time before he drops his own kids. Selfish people think nothing of doing whatever they want, they can come up with excuse after excuse, even believe themselves...but time will out, and Karma is a very nasty thing to toy with...he has played in a sandbox filled with future pain he will not escape from..trust me on that one. Good luck, put away the hurt, and make sure you little girl has all that she needs.
2007-04-16 07:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-22 08:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is immature and stupid.
get used to it. he won't change.
take care of YOU... if your daughter misses his family, perhaps contact them and ask if she can visit with them... if the ex isn't going to do it, and your daughter wants to see them, then perhaps you can get the ball rolling.
i don't know how he can be so heartless, but consider his actions, and how he expects an 8 year old to call him and keep in touch? it's the parents' responsibility to keep close ties and the lines of communication open. however, he seems as if he has the mentality of a 5 year old, so you can't expect miracles from a moron. can you?
take care of you and your kids.. do what you think is right, and remember you can't change anyone else.
hugz
2007-04-16 07:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
HE IS NOT YOUR DAUGHTER'S FATHER! He has no rights and he owes no responsibility to her. It's very sad, but that is the truth. Blending families is always difficult when your split. Bottom line is she is not his and he owes her nothing.
2007-04-16 06:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His true colors have finally come out. Now you know just how much of a big jerk he really is.
2007-04-16 06:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i could probably answer your question if it was written in english and not internet ebonics.
2007-04-16 07:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by lollirott 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋