Do you think that you should be at least 25 to get married and have other requirements to get married?

Question

anything at all.. what requirements do you think a marriage should have and why? what requirements for divorce, should there be a londer waiting period before you finalize the divorce to give people a chance to think it over? should people have to have lots of conseling for marriage and divorce?

Answer 1

I think 25 is a good age for women but at least 30 for men! LOL I think a divorce waiting period should be at least 6 months whether or not there are kids involved and counseling should be required. Sometimes people jump up and want a divorce when it's most likley an issue that could have been worked out with better communication. Of course there are always exceptions to every rule but I think these days people take marriage and divorce way too lightly.

Answer 2

I really don't think people NEED conseling to get married. I am married and I was married at 25 my husband and I were together for 5 years before we got married... I personally think people should live with each other before getting married I know that a lot of religions are against it... BUT you learn everything about your partner during this time and you will already know your likes and dislikes and you will know if you can live with them...
In NY you have to be sep for a year before you can even get divorced... I think that is a good thing because people do change there minds... I think people should be ready to get married and age doesn't matter...
Just make sure you are sure that YOU are ready to get married and the guy you are marring is the one you KNOW you will spend the rest of your life with...

Answer 3

Marriage is hard work. But there may be pretty mature say 23 year olds and really selfish 33 year olds.
My parents were 19 and 20 and have been married 45 years. So I wouldn't take that away from them.

I think personally you should be able to provide for one another. Know and respect each-other and the family.

Don't have any doubts - and you are ready. Make sure you are out of college, or have a good job and don't have regrets.

We were 24 and 25 - and love being happily married with 3 kids under our belt.

Answer 4

These are great questions. I'll say that love is not enough to get married. It's a good start. Maturity is a basic requirement for getting married. We are often not good evaluators of our own maturity. I was 29 when I got married and it was too soon. You must not give up your identity as a man to become a husband nor should a woman give up her identity as a woman to become a wife. Be a harbor of safety for each other, but do not make the other person responsible for your happiness. Marriage should require ongoing love and sex marathons.

Divorce takes too long as it is. Marriage counseling prior to marriage is a great thing. I saw a movie once where the groom asked he bride prior to the ceremony. "Why do you want to marry me?" She was dumbfounded by the question but more so because she didn't know the answer!

Marriage can succeed only if we make the right choices on who we marry. Most of our choices are made without consideration to the questions you have posed.

Answer 5

Well I find it nice that you try to bring down divorce rate, but that is not the right way. For ppl not being allowed to get married before 25 - so if some guys know each other for 5 years and really wanna get married at 23 they shouldn't and some 30-year-old who met at the bar yesterday should be allowed. Not fair. As for the obligatory counseling - first are you sure counseling works in the first place? The fact that it might have worked for you or even for all of your friends doesn't mean it didn't even made things worse for others. Some research might help. Also what about in case of domestic abuse? A woman should be stuck in counseling with her abuser even if she can't stand the sight of him? Or in the case of cheating? Some people think it is forgivable, some people don't. Whichever the case, people should be allowed to end a marriage as soon as they wish. Plus who's gonna pay for that counseling? Is is fair for an abused/cheated woman/man to be forced to pay for counseling, or do you wanna ruin the state budget (or whatever it is called in the US)?

Answer 6

It varies, really. I think anyone from about 22 onward can handle marriage pretty well, but it depends on the exact individuals. However, in terms of generality and statistics, 22+ seems to be pretty safe. In terms of requirements, you should both preferably be financially stable and ready for a huge amount of commitment and responsibility.

Divorce, again, depends on the two individuals. They may need time to think it over, but for the most part -- people are sure when they want to get divorced. It's a life changing experience, as is marriage, and they usually don't need time to think it over. It just happens, unfortunately. They are often abrupt, rash, and don't communicate properly. The thing is that by simply putting in that extra effort to communicate, you can save your relationship and avoid divorce altogether.

Counselling for marriage and divorce is really an option. It depends on the individuals' personalities and upbringing, above all. Sometimes it is helpful to have that extra opinion (and source of encouragement/understanding) in your life, though.

Answer 7

Sounds like a good idea! There are so many divorces anymore, if people just took the time to really know someone before marrying them, the divorce rates would drop. I got married at 21 and I am still married 24 years later, it worked for me but, it may not work for others.

Answer 8

No, I think you should be able to get married when you want to. I got married 2 months after I turned 20. Ive been married over 3 1/2 years. I just think people give up too easily. They immediately turn to divorce, instead of putting forth any effort to have a happy marriage. Its pathetic.

Answer 9

Why are you interested in controlling the marriages and divorces of others?

A marriage is a contract, as far as the state is concerned. Like any other contract, people are free to enter into it and dissolve it as they wish. That's the way it works best, leaving all of the pressures for/against marriage and divorce to play themselves out in the ebb and flow of the culture.

All the government needs is minimal requirements to prevent abuse of the process, as with any other contract. The most minimal is that both persons are capable of knowing what they are doing and making that decision. That means the need to be mentally competent and mid-teens, as far as age goes, maybe with parental consent below 17 or so. That's the way it is in most states.

Answer 10

if you set a mandatory age for marriage, you make mandatory 'bastards' b/c younger aged pregnant females won't be able to marry to legitimize their offspring. it would be terrific, however, if marriage counseling were required of couples seeking a divorce. also extending the time it takes to get a divorce might make people work harder to stay together when their differences are such that they could be worked out if they would apply themselves to doing so. there are no easy answers, though, because there are exceptions to every rule.