i have son of age 19. last week i cauht him while doing crossdressing. he wore my sarees bangles even my bra and panty also. he want to wear my all jewellery and dresses. i am confused wot to do. pls advice.
2007-04-16 05:42:02 · 17 answers · asked by alka s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask him whats going on. You need to talk to him.
2007-04-16 05:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Asking For It 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh this must be so hard for you to deal with. I'm a parent also and I think that this would be a very delicate thing to deal with.
I think that the best way to deal with this is to just let it go.
This is something that is very personal and something that he is compelled to do. Obviously your son has this strong desire and it's his choice. I would not get upset as this a very intimate personal choice for him. Maybe he is just experimenting either way it boils down to his own choice.
If he is a good kid then just let it be. You really can't change his desire to do what he needs to do. What ever decision he makes, whether to cross dress or not is something you can not change. If this is the only concern you have for him then consider yourself lucky. Remember, you are not to blame at all , this is something "inside" of him. Good Luck.
2007-04-16 12:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by lorrina b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alka,
Once in a while, the curiousity to cross-dress and "feel" how it feels is only natural - especially for someone in his teens.
If he consistently begins to "explore" these ideas or seems like he wants to try things with his friends or takes it beyond your "closets", there's something for you to openly talk to him about.
But, with just one such instance, you shouldn't be too concerned. If you do see him trying it again, don't express shock or surprise. Just play along and tell him he looks cute, in fact cuter than you ever were in those clothes and laugh about it. At least he'll be able to lighten-up and not feel guilty and may even talk about his thoughts with you.
Best wishes.
2007-04-16 12:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by this_big_one_is_4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing for you to do is love him no matter what he does and let him know that as well...when he sees that you really will support what he does and you really care about how he feels, he'll begin to open up more with you and you may find that he has some pain deep inside, or you may just find out that this is who he is and this is what makes him happy...just love him and try to understand that it takes all kinds of people to make up the world...and your son is one of those people...let him be him and you just keep being the loving mother that you are...
2007-04-16 12:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by bravo95165 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is grow. You need to support him in his decisions! This is very important being a cross dresser or being gay is not bad. You don't choose who you are attracted to or who you love. your son is probably confused right now and trying to figure out who he is just support him and answer his questions as best as you can.from a mother of 2 boys.
2007-04-16 12:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Brandyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you talk him into going to see a clinical psychologist for some counseling. He seems to be having an identity crisis. He may be gay. If he is don't be surprised.....he is still your son and he may have wanted to be caught by you to see if you could accept him as he is! Lots of luck to you and your son!
2007-04-16 12:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Marilyn H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit him down and ask him if he's gay and if he is only thing you can do is support him so if you don't want to push him away just listen that's the best thing you can do tell him that you don't appreciate him wearing your clothes, underwear and jewelry i hope this helps good luck just be honest with him how you feel
2007-04-16 12:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to see a counselor. I would be up front that I love you son and are confused and would like to understand your attraction to dressing up. Please seek advice professionally and please don't hide all this, always be open to talking and being open about feelings. Saying ok I don't get this, help me understand you? Are you gay, I want to be able to let you understand I have boundries about behavior I don't want in my home (like sex partners). But we need to talk and please agree to counseling for us to be able to understand our fears here so this isn't a house of secrets and we can pray together. We are family.
2007-04-16 12:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make your son feel ashamed, embarrassed, stupid, or any other negative feeling.
Don't try and make him go to a counsellor or therapist, as he may see this as a criticism and think that you are saying that his behaviour is wrong.
Good luck
2007-04-16 12:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lizi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and find out what is going on?
If he wants some professional help you should find it for him.
Do not judge him, support him and help him do what he needs to do.
He is a man of 19... maybe it is time for him to move out...and pursue his dreams...
2007-04-16 12:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋