my husband and I been married for 2 yrs., now. The first few month into our wedding he wanted to take his son(from another marriage) to see his mother instead of me. My pastor told him that he should want to take his wife back home to see his family. Now a year later I have not met his family and he's going back a 3rd time since we've been married. I confronted him about it and his responce was, he haven't decided on who he was going to take. Now keep in mind he never took me on a honeymoon and I never met his mom.
2007-04-16 05:04:05 · 26 answers · asked by 2cute 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His mother wasn't at the wedding because she has never been outside of where she's from. I have spoke to his mother and one of the sisters on the phone. One member out of the family came. Also his ex-mother inlaw was. I didn't know she was even there until a WEIRD feeling came over me and I begain to look around and there this woman was. I asked him who she was and he explained that she had to be there or else his step daughter couldn't get a ride.
2007-04-16 06:12:19 · update #1
There is a saying that "all things done in the dark will eventually come to light". Learn patience in these matters. Don't push the situation. Something does sound fishey. My advice is to pray about it, be at peace and let God handle the matter. Third, that wierd feeling is probably the voice of Gods wisdom in the situation. Don't be hasty! Patience is the key...
2007-04-23 07:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by inhis_image 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other posts. Your situation is VERY strange!!!
If you could make arrangements and travel by yourself so you could meet them, maybe you'd find something really horrible waiting so I don't know what I'd do....But then again, if there IS something horrible - like he's married to someone else and you don't know it- the sooner you find out , the better!
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( This actually happened to an aunt of mine... about 35 years ago. She married a guy from another country -a diplomat who travelled a lot- and it was not until 5 or 6 years later that she discovered he was a bigamist...! Of course she was shocked beyond belief and so was her family...! She annuled the marriage.)
2007-04-21 14:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years and you haven't met his family!!!! Do they live in another country? And why does he have to choose who he is going to take when he does? You are his wife and you should be going along with his son if necessary. Does anyone in his family even know the two of you are married? And then there is the zero honeymoon. I don't think your husband realizes he's married!
2007-04-16 05:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been married for 2 years and haven't met his mother, something is very wrong. But to be honest, maybe he is protecting you. Mothers- in- law can be very wicked people. I know I wish I'd never met my ex-husbands mother.She made my life miserable for 13 years. I really don't know how to help you with this. Are you happy in your marriage otherwise? I hope everything works out for you.
2007-04-23 15:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Tina D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have gotten married, you need to meet the family before marriage that way you know everything you are marrying into that should have sent up major red flags with you, wow good luck and god bless was she not at the wedding that is weird
2007-04-16 05:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not mention what happened to the previous wife. Is she dead? Are they divorced or what. It seems strange the ex mother in law would be at the wedding.
I would ask for some answers and the next trip that came up to go back to where he is from would include me if I were you.
2007-04-23 19:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering about the nationality of your husband? Why would you marry someone if you had not met the family? He hasn't decided who is going to take? This is nuts!
2007-04-22 11:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Terrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound right,,my first thought when
I read this was his mom doesn't know about you
his mom is against divorce and he has not told her he has gotten a divorce from ex. I could be totally off but if he was my hubby that would be my first suspicion.You have to talk to him,he is hiding something and you deserve to know the truth!
2007-04-16 05:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by selma b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is this odd now, he was likely odd before you got married.
i have no idea why he isn't taking you to meet his family -- have you asked him?
consider telling him how you're feeling about this. if you feel left out, tell him. if you feel he's embarrassed of you, talk about it. perhaps he is embarassed of his family?
you will never know anything about a person, unless you ask them.... communication is KEY in a relationship...
i don't know what to say about the fact that he didn't take you on a honeymoon, except he seems like a cheapskate...
2007-04-16 05:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to look into this. Does his family know about you at all? Maybe there is something in his past that he dosen't want you to know about or maybe he is just using this as an excuse to run off with another woman. Do some digging honey, you need to.
2007-04-16 05:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋