If you were with someone that you know you love, and you think you know that that person loves you back. Then someone tells you if you come back into their life they will marry you and take care of you for the rest of your life. And you love them but you’re not in love with that person. Would you stay with the person you are in love with or would go back to the person that is will to marry you and take care of you?
2007-04-16 04:58:29 · 13 answers · asked by CRYSTAL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I used to say "never marry someone you love, marry someone who loves you" however i think you'll be miserable in the sense of not having love in your heart. You won't come to fall in love with him. You'll always long for the one who has your heart. My advice marry the man you love, the man you are in love with. The one that makes you heart smile. The one you want to have babies with. The one you want to grow old with.
2007-04-16 05:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Pixel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with the person that your in love with since marriage should be based on love and the feeling's for that one person. If you were to leave for the other it will never work out because you do not have the feelings for them as you do with the other. Really when it comes to marrying someone choosing wisely is the most important aspect of it all.
God Bless and Best Wishes.
2007-04-16 12:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to marry someone you are not in love with? That makes me think of painting the walls with an ugly fire retardant paint. The house is safer, but I cannot stand to look at it.
Marry someone who is your best friend and who you share love with, otherwise you will be unhappy.
By the way, marrying someone so that they can take care of you is using them. Why would you want to use someone?
Take care,
Troy
2007-04-16 12:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not ever leave someone you love for the one u like. because they will leave you for the one they love! trust me i know. i was with a great man who loved me for me and would do anything for me. i was a queen i his eyes, then i met some hotter mre "fun" guy and droped peince charning like a hot potato; i messed up there is a thing as lust and want but when it come down to it u just need ur bestfreind. who will really be there for you emotionally and support you with your life goals. sex is not everything, it's who is going to be there for you no matter what, and you know in your soul that u can trust this person. that they are in it for the both of you , for that ever after. good luck doll! fallow ur heart, u already know want u want but think of the worst possible that it can be with either of them and then the best! which one comes out better? and be realistic. make a pros and cons list. what will u miss most about one or the other, and last of all which one does you friends like better?? that shows alot, what they think. cause they love you and want happiness for you.
2007-04-16 12:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by n_caligirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the person you are in love with, if you aren't in love with the other person that has offered to marry you and take care of you, you are going to end up being miserable in the end.
2007-04-16 12:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea22306 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
how many people do you know that have been married for 20 years or more? of those still married, if there are any, how many are still happy or faithful? I suspect as you go through this the numbers will dwindle to near zero. why get into a marriage you know will end in divorce?
2007-04-16 18:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what's right for YOU. Find out for sure what's going on with guy #1 - if he feels the same. And think about this, is it really fair to guy #2 to marry him if you're not in love with him? You can't control whom you love ... do what makes you happy.
2007-04-16 12:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are letting other people determine who you are going to be with. Marriage is about shared goals and dreams not whose going to "take care of" you the best. Take care of yourself and make sure you are not only choosing the best person for you but that you know you are the best for them.
2007-04-16 12:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give yourself any choice,,
you're in the right place, don't go away
from there.that love you have now can flourish
and mature and become even sweeter.
The other guy ? he can promise you the whole
world today, then when you wake up it's only a dream.
By the way, yes he can marry you (as he says)
and yet he can divorce you too. be smart. . .
You're beautiful to be ugly. . .
.
2007-04-16 12:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by JUSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always better to love who loves you rather than loving who you love.
2007-04-16 12:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋