I am one of those people who wants to get married but don't think they want any children lol. i am 17 but i have decided that unless i really, truly fall in love then i do not want any children. Does anyone else feel the same?? I am open to opinions about this but i dont want to get insulted from anyone please.
2007-04-16 04:28:49 · 18 answers · asked by ILoveGreen ZipZapZop 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
dont get me wrong people lol, i love children but i think they are too big of a responsibility. i dont know if i will be able to handle it.
2007-04-16 04:54:41 · update #1
I too have little interest in children but would like to marry. Of course opinions can always change.
2007-04-16 04:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I decided I didn't want any children around your age. I am 28 now and still feel the same. Don't get me wrong I like kids and I have entertained the thought back and forth but still none yet. I want to live life and make sure I want to bring a child into this world of terrorism and hatred. I don't even know if I want to be married. My mom had me when she was 37 so you can have a healthy child well into your 30's. It's up to you but just make sure if thats your decision you let your partner know b/c it has to be his decision to still marry a woman that does not want children
2007-04-16 04:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by babygirl28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. I`m 17 too and I want to marry and have loads of children. If I get on telling you about my view of wedding, you laugh out loud, considering that its totally strange and funny. Well, I think that if you get married to someone, you can`t spend your whole lifetime only with him: when you wake up, when you are eating, when you are travelling and when you are back to bed again. It gets boring in the long run and is mainly the reason why many lovely couples find it hard to stay to together, even after eons of marriage. Children are thought to be that link which binds couples together forever. But, to comfort you, I know a lot of couples without children who are still together and living very happily. Anyways, you are free to have your own thoughts about that matter but I would most sincerely advise you to discuss it with the one you will get married to.
2007-04-16 04:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's absolutely nothing wrong with that, and I can't see why anyone would insult you for making such a decision. It is perfectly OK to not have children, and there is nothing wrong with you for not wanting to have any. In fact, you should be commended for knowing what you want and living the life that makes you happy.
There has been heavy pressure from society to have children, but that is changing. You don't have to bow to that pressure. Don't your family or some outdated ideal pressure you into having kids. You can have a perfectly full and happy life without them, despite what some will tell you.
2007-04-16 05:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may or may not change your mind, but it is your choice. You are not abnormal for thinking that and many people have children for the sake of it because society tells them they should. If you don't want to have children and still feel like that when you get married, don't have children just to please your partner. That could be dangerous and you would just end up resenting him.
However, make sure you talk to your partner before you get married, as you may not be compatible if he wants children. Bottom line, it's your decision, but don't rule anything out for the future and your feelings may change.
2007-04-16 04:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not me, but I have a good friend who feels that way. She's in her 30's.
When I was your age (I'm 33 now) I didn't want children either, because I was terrified that they would interfere with the dreams I had for my life. But in the following years I accomplished many of those dreams, and then fell madly in love, and changed my mind. I have 2 young children now and I'm not sorry... although I am eager for them to get older so I can take them on more adventures with me!
2007-04-16 04:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 17 this may change.......... and I wanted it the other way around. 1 kid with no marriage (but I did get married 3 years before having the kid anyway)
I know of 4 couples that have all chosen not have kids... so it can happen like that.
Just make sure you are honest with person you fall in love with.. it could be devastating to the relationship if he really wants 5 kids and you want none
2007-04-16 04:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Bama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 of my children got married and don't wan't children. they feel the world is too screwed up to bring another human being into it. plus the fact that it is very expensive to raise a child these days and have a career at the same time. I know a lot of people who feel that way.
2007-04-16 04:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by chercinbob 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take time to marry, first know the world, go around watch people , i think you are in a very weird environment, again take time to marry and look around the world. There are many people who want to be different from others they end up doing very bad things in their life. I wish you are not one of those, i wish you a very happy life ahead.
2007-04-16 04:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and I dont want kids... I dont want to raise children in this enviornment. Maybe when time goes on 10-15 years I may want to have one..or adopt..but for now there is nothing wrong with not wanting to breed. Other people are doing it for you and we are definatley not short on people in this world.
2007-04-16 04:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by The Tomato Killer 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋