What do you do when you grow up and realise you don't actually like any of your friends?

Question

Has this happened to anyone else?

I am twenty five and recently I have realised that I don't actually like any of the friends I have been knocking about with since I was 15-16. I used to like them a lot but recently I don't.

Answer 1

Some people change with time and you may have matured or you may have different interests from your old friends now. Some people just drift apart and that can happen with time.

Answer 2

Honestly i have had this same problem but mine happened earlier than you, when i left school at 17 i decided there and then i didnt actually have anything in common with them and left them behind the day i walked out of school. This was the best thing i done and i dont look back. I really then had no-one as such, i had other friends outside and stuck with them and have gained great friends through work etc... i would now say i have 3 great true friends, without them i dont know where i would of been.
My suggesting is you try to go out more with people at work etc...join a gym etc...and meet new friends through this eventually once you have new friends stop having so much contact with present friends, they will understand and hopefully accept you have moved on.

Answer 3

I wonder is this realisation more about yourself - they say judge a man by the company he keeps,

I'm not saying you don't like you - but perhaps having time to assess where you are in life you now feel unsatisfied, perhaps your dislike of friends is a symptom of that,

Try `auditing' where you are and what you do - perhaps it is time for a new challenge, job, place or hobby,

Find what is unsatisfactory you with where you are now and sort it -

Those people who really matter will join you on the roller coaster of life - perhaps so far you have only taken the scenic route - go - explore -live- play and keep be safe

Best of luck....

Answer 4

People alter all the time, same thing can happen in relationships, when you are convinced the guy you dated all through school will be the one you marry, then you realise at the age of 21, he does your head in. That's why people warn you not to marry to young.
Its a shame but just part of life and you just have to make new friends that are more like your self with similar interests.

Answer 5

this is absolutely natural, that you just grow out of people and grow apart from each other. When you are kids you have similar interests but then, through teenage years, you usually stick together because individually you are having normal teenage crises of confidence and it's better to be part of a group and hang about together. Then, late teens and twenties, you start to find yourself, what you like and become a real individual and that's when you discover the differences between you and your friends and start growing apart. So you start to find people with similar interests - sport, work - until those, too, change and perhaps you get a spouse and family. Naturally you then drift to other people in similar family circumstances as yourself and so on.
Every time I buy a new address book, and transfer all my friends and contacts over, I have to make a deliberate decision on who to include and who to leave out - it's like 'editing' my address book. This happens about every five years and there's usually half a dozen people who WERE friends but who I've now got nothing in common with - so they get binned. Sad, but it happens. Life is about moving forward, new experiences, new people .
My advice to you? Have a think about the kind of person you are now, what you like, and seek new friends with similar interests. Don't be sad if, in time, they move on or you do - it is an absolutely natural part of life. It's rare that in a 50-year-old's addres book he would still have names of friends that he went to school with - you just move on with your life.

Answer 6

You know what? You are TOTALLY okay, dude! It happens all the time! People CAN "grow-out" of their friends, and it happens all the time. Sometimes, we grow up and our friends don't....our interests change, we go our separate ways, they do things we don't like or just don't plain want to do anymore..or you just wake up one morning and you happen to "SEE THE LIGHT" and like, whoa! What a reality check! You suddenly see how shallow they are...and wonder why the hell you stayed friends with them so long! Just dont hang wit them anymore...don't call and make yourself unavailable...after awhile, they'll get the picture! Make some new friends...ones who challenge you to be better...ones who are actually going places with their lives,
WHY? BECAUSE IT WILL AFFECT you and make you grow into a better person, too.

Answer 7

My 20 yr old son recently did the same thing, although he wasn't hanging out with his usual 8 friends he got older new ones but he tired from smoking and constant partying, he became a doper. Now he is back to his old buddies skiiing, traveling to Germany, going to school and long shore fishing in Alaska. So I'm happier (Mom). He is working on a future and not messed up anymore.

Answer 8

Yes, a lot of people grow apart from their friends, you find different interests and no longer feel the need to be "part of the crowd".

I'm in the same situation just now, but am in the process of finding new friends. It's not that I don't like my old friends anymore, it's just that we have less in common so have nothing to talk about!

It's strange isn't it!

Answer 9

Sure, it's happened to lots of us. It's not uncommon at all for high school friends to grow apart once they reach adulthood. I only have a couple of friends I've been friends with since then. As for all the rest, we've all moved off in our own directions, and have made new friends in our new lives.

Answer 10

I had this problem when I was about your age.

I culled my friends.

I spent a year or two feeling a bit lonely, but to be quite honest, it gave me time to work out who I was.

I now have great friends, mostly because I made better choices in friends, and things are great.

You do grow out of people, and accepting that is just a part of getting older.