I can't be sure but I think he is cheating on me. We have been married for almost 2 years, but he doesn't want to spend time wth me or our boys. He always finds a reason to not be around me. He has even told me that i'm not good enough to visit his famnily when he goes.
2007-04-16 04:13:38 · 21 answers · asked by Vonvon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being married should mean that you and your husband spending time together with your boys and your family and his too. Reasons are excusses and most of the time they seem to be covering up things that you are not suppose to know by the other person whom is hiding them from you. If he is avoiding you for even the simplest things then I would either start asking questions or even talk to his family to see what they say.. But if they to are not trust worthy then go to a good friend that might know the both of you and see what they say. If you are not good enough then why did he marry you in the first place, you must mean something to him, how about your boys together they should mean some thing also. I would look in to what he is doing.. If you can't get answers from him at all then go to the nearest friend and talk to them and maybe they can talk to him or "spy" on him to see what he is up to!
2007-04-16 04:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find actual proof, then yes, leave. And that wouldn't take much... borrow someone else's car, and follow him, or if you have a friend, have them follow him. The third option is to hire a PI, but that could cost you a few hundred. Betrayal is the only real deal-buster in marriage.... the admiration, respect, passion and trust just go in the toilet immediately .... and it is then pretty much the end of your marriage. If he is always finding a reason not to be around, then he is always finding a reason to be with someone else.... just get some proof, then leave. You can't unscramble an egg, hon. File, get out, and get on with your life, if he's a cheater.... and as I said, if you put some effort it it, it won't be long before you can have the proof.
2007-04-16 05:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my word!! You're his wife - you are definitely good enough! Ask him about his faithfulness. Ask him if he wants to divorce. If he's says he's faithful (and you believe him) and that he doesn't want a divorce, then ask him to join you for marital counseling. Tell him that this is what it will take because you refuse to live like you have any longer. If he refuses, get a lawyer and begin divorce proceedings. If he is cheating on you, then he must go to counseling with you or you should make him leave and seek a divorce. If he's not willing to work on the marriage, then it's already over. However, if he's willing to work on it, then I wish you the very best of luck in repairing your marriage.
2007-04-16 04:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You either get out or you make him know that you know you are Worthy of better treatment and that you will leave if he doesn't live up to your expectations of him and how he is to treat you. Most likely if he loves you, you will have to show him that you mean business by actually leaving for awhile, and allow him to ask you back and then you lay down some ground rules. ONE thing that women seem to be oblivious too is that men are really more flexible than they themselves realize and are willing and able to do major changing in their lives for the right woman. But we so often will settle for less than we deserve b/c we think we will never find another.
2007-04-16 04:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by Dayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is, or is not cheating on you is irrelevant at this point.
The main issue here is that he is neglectful and mentally abusing you. This is not the sort of thing that you can live with, it will only get worse. You certainly don't want your sons brought up in an environment where women are considered sub-human.
You need to get your life back, and find someone who wants to be with you.
2007-04-16 04:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is hard for everyone..especially children. What's harder is children seeing one parent hurting due to the acts of the other parent. Kids aren't stupid and they see things that we don't think they see. Before you take that step, maybe you should try marriage counseling. If that doesn't help then you should probably go ahead and leave. He doesn't sound like a very nice person, husband or father and you can do better. Good Luck
2007-04-16 04:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a way to get you and your children into a better situation. Pull yourself up from the lower spectrum this man is attempting to place you in and live your life for you and those kids! You'll always regret settling & learn to NEVER settle again!
2007-04-16 04:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guy...Well, if he was like this BEFORE you got married, then no. You knew this about him and now you need to make it work. However, if he's changed this much and won't work on it with you, then I can't see how staying would do much good.
2007-04-16 04:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask you know the answer... and as not being good enough you were good enough to marry and now not good enough for his family I would doubt that.
2007-04-16 04:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get someone to watch the kids, get a friend, follow him. I know someone who did this and got quite a surprise. They're not married anymore.
2007-04-16 04:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋