My sons Father just took him to his married mistress's home. We have not been together for years due to an online affair he had years ago. This is his second online affair, now in real time also. I know it is inappropriate for him to drag our son there, but is it illegal? My boyfriend thinks I should call childrens services. I do not think this is in their jurisdiction, and I wrong?
2007-04-16 03:46:32 · 14 answers · asked by nutmagnet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it is not illegal.
Just keep on teaching your son what you think to be right, without discussing his dad's behavior at all. I would assume that your personal moral code also includes a certain amount of empathy for people who are making mistakes in their lives, and a certain amount of concern for your son's sense of security at being allowed to love both of his parents unconditionally.
2007-04-16 04:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would only be illegal if something illegal happened there. Did he see any inappropriate activity?
If he just took him there then I don't think it's illegal. It wasn't a very good idea, but it's not illegal. What was your son's reaction? What does he think of his dad? Those would be questions I would have in my head as the dad. The possible answers to them would be the reason for my not taking my son to ... Well, I'd like to think I wouldn't be going to my mistress's house anyway.
2007-04-16 03:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My question would be, what happens if the husband shows up while the son is there? What happens if the husband get's violent? I don't think there is a problem with his son meeting Dad's girlfriend, if they are not obvious about the circumstances. I am assuming that you are no longer with the child's dad. You might want to gently point out that it is a potential dangerous situation. If you get combative over this, he'll think it's about him and not your son. Unfortunately, there is not much you can do with regards to where they spend their time together. You need to try and work with him so that you are both looking out for your son's best interest. At least he is there for the son. Boy's need their dads. If you are always a positive role model for your son, he will grow up right and will love his mom. If he feels he is stuck in the middle, he will grow to resent.
2007-04-16 06:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by S g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where you reside, but if is in the U.S., it is poor judgement, yes, but not illegal. If you do drag CPS in the picture, your ex can likely drag the appropriateness of your boyfriend having contact with your son also into the picture also...worst case scenario would be you both end up losing custody and the child would be place in foster care if both of your homes/situations were deemed inappropriate by the social worker on the case, the guardian ad-litem that would be assigned to the case the Judge.
A better solution would be for you (not you boyfriend) to ask to speak with your ex privately to discuss the matter and discuss the situation and how your ex. If he insists, the get a good lawyer to represent you to see about supervised visitation if it is psychologically damaging to you son.
2007-04-16 03:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Children service can not do anything about it, unless your husband is abusing your son. I think that man can not go anymore lower like my husband. Yes my SOB husband did had an affair with a married women as well, over 4 months ago, from the dating site. That woman has a small son also but what he did or they did, he went to that married woman to screw her but her son was there inside her home.
I think men that never respect small children feelings, just think about their needs are not human. Please try not to let your husband take your son anymore if he wants to see that wh##e,it will do something when he grows up. It will give him some idea of how not to respect others when he grows up. Do this for him and for you.......
2007-04-16 04:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know that it's illegal, but it's definitely unethical, and endangering mentally for your son. Ask him to stop, and if he opts not too,maybe you should speak to your lawyer. It's your job as Mom to make sure he's as safe as possible at all times. If she weren't married it would be a different story but.... he needs to remember he's his father, your child's best interest should be taken in account by both of you.
2007-04-16 04:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's inaccurate and so grow to be your father. i do no longer care if I actually have a son or a daughter i might on no account, ever enable them to have their boyfriend/lady pal over to spend the evening. i does no longer even enable them to have a chum of the choice intercourse over for the evening. seem a woman can in straight forward terms get pregnant as quickly as at a time, yet a boy properly, he can get a number of pregnant at as quickly as. so as you spot nether is a sturdy element.
2016-10-03 01:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by doolin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't illegal, but completely unethical and harmful to your son. Keep it away from children's services if you have custody of him. Your action should be with an attorney and go from there.
2007-04-16 03:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by Smooch The Pooch 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Illegal? I don't think so, immoral, definately!!! Maybe a call to the mistress' husband would make a difference.
2007-04-16 03:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
IT'S STUPID BUT NOT ILLEGAL,,
YOU HAVE YOUR SON AROUND YOUR BOYFRIEND RIGHT? JUST BECAUSE HE FOUND HER ON THE INTERNET WHAT DIFFERNCE DOES IT MAKE,
U BETTER STOP KNOW BEING HATEFUL TOWARDS YOUR EX, YOU ARE ONLY GOING TO BE HURTING YOUR OWN CHILD.
AND WHAT IS CALLING CHILDREN SERVICE GOING TO DO,
I JUST THINK U ARE A HATEFUL PERSON
2007-04-16 03:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by sonya h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋