Would you rather have a spouse who was faithful to you but the sex was awful and unfixable. Or would you rather have a spouse who cheats regularly but whose sex was incredible and you got it when you wanted.
2007-04-16 03:35:27 · 27 answers · asked by mrskyesha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Faithful. Sex is not every thing. If someone is cheating they probably don't love you or at least don't respect you. If you try really hard and do it just the right way you probably can fix the sex enough that it is tolerable. What emotions do you get from the bad sex? Does it feel like he is trying or just lazy about it?
Think about what the rest of the relationship is like. Sex is only a small part, what is it like the rest of the time with either guy?
2007-04-16 03:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by mntnck 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Reading the answers above mine, people do not seem to like hypothetical questions! The "rule" of the hypothetical question is that you can't change the terms of the question. So, all the people who are saying they would choose the unfixable one, and then fix them, are not playing the game!
Some people think you also should not add additional qualifications to the hypothetical, but I'm going to risk that in my answer:
IF I knew that my spouse, despite being unfaithful, was never going to leave me for anyone else, I would take the incredible sex one. If I did not know that, though, I would take the faithful, boring one.
(Lucky for me, though, I am married to a faithful woman with whom I have good sex!)
2007-04-16 03:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awful and unfixable is a sure way to eventually look elsewhere. Cheating on you is another sure fire way to look for consolation in someone else's arms. The first is ineptitude which leads to breakdown, the second is rejection which leads to divorce. Both are no no's. Sex can be fixed if both parties decide help is needed. I'd opt for neither. Better alone yet happy than attached to someone who doesn't care about my needs in bed or when with others.
2007-04-16 04:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will take a faithful spouse. There is more to a relationship than sex. I know I had the sex, but an unfaithful spouse. It got to the point did you really want to have sex , when you know he just came from the other woman. Give me the faithful spouse anytime.
2007-04-16 03:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by springer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh, bad sex is not unfixable. If he doesn't know what he's doing, show him!!! Who would want to be with a man who cheated?? I've never understood this. With the disease and the nasty, I wouldn't want my husband, no matter how good the sex was, if I knew he was out there putting "little johnny" where ever he wanted to. Rent some porn, buy some toys, light some candles and educate the boy!!!
2007-04-16 04:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would definitely prefer the former over the later. I think there is always a way to fix bad sex. It just involves communication and creativity.
Nothing hurts worse than the betrayal of someone allowed as close as a spouse should be. In ideal situations, they are the one person that we allow close enough to know who we really are. It's total betrayal. It's the "I thought I knew you, will you please remove the dagger from my heart" betrayal. There's nothing worse.
Love me as best you can, and let me be and know that I'm your one and only.
2007-04-16 03:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id rather have my spouse who is faithful, and the sex is incredible. If the sex isnt good its up to you and him and make it better, the answer is never to go outside
2007-04-16 03:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Neither sounds like a spouse, when you get married and you truely love someone, the physical side of the relationship will always be satisfactory and plentiful. No spouse worth a darn would cheat on his or her spouse.
2007-04-16 03:39:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would rather have a faithfull husband, and work on the sex problems in my marriage. Get some help for the both of you in sexual therapy before this destroys your marriage. commitment to one another means working on things together and communicating. You try to do everything you can to keep things right. Give him a choice to work on attending to your emotional, and physical needs first. If nothing helps you should leave him for someone more compatable.
2007-04-16 03:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a faithful husband plus if the sex is no good tell him what you want and need show him and it's a lot of toys out here that you can use and make yourself happy and it's a lot of pills out now that i know for a fact helps the man out good luck
2007-04-16 03:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋