A girl at work has recently got in touch with me via email.We never used to speak and she invited me to lunch.(she's got many other ppl she goes to lunch with!)WHY NOW?We hit off and we're in constant email contact now.
She's got my number(not txt yet though) and said she'll give me her's!I don't want to look too pushy, so I haven't asked!
I asked her out for Saturday, but she said she might have a date--but she said the bloke might change his mind!She met him over the wkn.
When I asked if she asked him out,she wrote back:
"It's the man's job to ask the girl out ;)"
1.Was this a hint for me to ask her out properly?
She said we'd go out for a drink nxt week and I asked if we can be friends-she said only if I don't expect more!
I replied saying I only wanted to be friends-what made her think I wanted more?She wrote back saying 'Nothing,just leave it...'
She now COMPLETELY IGNORES ME+EMAILS!
2.Did I do anything wrong? 3.Her ego bruised? 4.Why she ignoring me
2007-04-16 03:25:22 · 14 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When u said
"I replied saying I only wanted to be friends-what made her think I wanted more?She wrote back saying 'Nothing,just leave it..."
it sound like u didn't like her maybe she thinks ur usin her or something? i'm not sure,
when she wrote back "nothing just leave it" it sound like she's had a really really bad history, u should keep trying ask her y maybe look her up in the phone book and ring her, meet up with her in work, MAKE HER TALK!
2007-04-16 05:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by amy_baby123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you’re coworker has something going on. Have you seen her still going to lunch with her many old friends? The only person that can tell you why all of a sudden now is she asking you to lunch is her. Maybe her other friends have out grown her and now she needs to have someone else to spend lunch with.
If she’s not given you her number how are you texting her? Are you emailing her on the computer or sending text messages to her cell phone? If she’s not willing to give you contact information so you can reach her outside of work then you need to keep it moving because she’s not really trying to be a serious friend to you. Leave her because in the end she’s going to use you and leave you.
You asked her out and she instantly had a date? Now that sounds like a head game to me. It sounds like she has nothing to do at this time but she’s going to keep you on hold so that if nothing else comes up she may consider going out with you. I wouldn’t waste my time with trying to go out with her outside of work.
Her coming off with an attitude about you asking if she asked him out wasn’t necessary either. These days plenty of females will and have asked a man out. There’s nothing wrong with that. Basically she’s stuck on the thought of whoever asks should be the one to pay. She sounds like she’s just out for dates with guys that’s willing to spend money on her and when the money stops flowing she’s not going to be around. Try and find out from other people what this girl is really like.
She’s not wanting you to expect more because she’s not wanting to be more than just a half friend to you. She’s not going to be a true real friend to you. You’re better off just not dealing with her. She’s already showing signs of instability by getting upset with you over simple questions that you ask. Do you really want the headaches and drama in your life?
Stop emailing her and ignore her. Show her that it doesn’t bother you that she’s being childish. As soon as you stop giving her attention she’ll instantly grow up and ask you what’s the matter. Don’t play her childish mind games. Force her to grow up and be an adult or you’ll be babying her for your whole friendship.
2007-04-16 03:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants your attention. She wants your confirmation that you keep on thinking about her. She wants to know that you get hurt whan she ignores you. She wants your confirmation that she keeps meaning in your life. She wants confirmation that you can be a nice alternative guy in case she needed. She wanted you to promise not to seek more than friendship from her so that you wont be able to take any advantage from her. She wanted you as a friend so that you will always be there for her whenever she needs you in any form. she does not want you to seek more that friendship because she wants it on all her terms, not yours. This is the most common way most of the girls adopt to keep her guys at bay and use them on their terms.
You have already promised you will not seek more than friendship. She now wants confirmation from you how much you miss her,how restless you feel when she ignores you. She wants you to talk all of it to her. And it will confirm her that you can do many things, if not everything, for her. And she will be happy once you let her know how restless you were. She will then start enjoying from time to time by making you sad. And one fine day, she will even be ready to break your heart and enjoy the climax of happiness, as you are only an alternate after all.
2007-04-16 04:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by afdasvfaCcsvf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe someone said you like her? I think you should leave it for a while then go back in and ask her out face to face. You have nothing to lose. She can only say NO.
Don't do anything for a while, if you play it cool it may make her interested again.
Goodluck.
2007-04-16 03:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much, she is probably having a bad day. If you are really that interested in the girl whether it be friendship or maybe more in the future I would ring her to see where you stand. Whats the worse that can happen....she may say no!!!!
2007-04-16 03:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats one messed up girl, i know we are always calling blokes players but there are plenty of women out there playing the game. she is just messing you about, if you want to give it one more chance then ask her out way in advance like "what you doing 1st may" tell her what you have planned, drink, lunch whatever and if she still plays games or ignores you just leave it, its wasting your time and energy.
2007-04-16 03:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you've done anything wrong. She might have misunderstood you asking her out and might be embarrassed. Try to talk to her and find out what's wrong. Good luck.
2007-04-16 04:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her and go on with life !!! There is much more in life to do then to ponder about somebody you have written about.
2007-04-16 04:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by rodriguesaugusto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you just ask the same question a little while ago
2007-04-16 03:33:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU`RE STILL CHASING THIS GIRL ABOUT ! I`M NOT SURPRISED SHE`S IGNORING YOU - SHE`S PROBABLY TERRIFIED OF YOU -THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON AGES - ARE YOU HAVING A LAUGH OR IS THIS FOR REAL ?
2007-04-16 05:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by yahoobloo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋