Bloody hell you're huge! Still 8 weeks to go?!?!?

Question

WHY do people think its ok to keep saying this to me!
Strangers, bus drivers, friends, people everywhere comment on how big my bump is, and when I tell them I still have 8 weeks to go they are surprised. I dont think I am that big, and it is starting to get very annoying!
How am I going to survive another 2 months of this!!!

Answer 1

Because they think that's what you want to here, ackknowledgement that your pregnant. When your first pregnant that's what you want to here, then at about 6- 7month you want a t-shirt with:
Yes i'm pleased
It's a boy/girl
or we don't know sex
Due ie 28/06/07
or a weekly count down
List of possible names
Yes or no it's my first!
Thank-you
This is all the things people ask over and over again oh and 1 more, oh are you sure it's not twins!! when large.

I was huge at 7 months last time when due May 10th every 1 said I wouldn't last till end of April oh how wrong they were, may was nearly over, he arrived 15days late after induction at 9lb 8oz. Don't feel half the size this time but do have 10weeks left. Good luck when it happens:0)

Answer 2

Not having been pregant, I can't imagine exactly what you are going through, but i understand it must be nasty. 99.9% of the people are probably just saying it as a joke, and mean no harm by it- if they are good friends, try telling them in a normal conversation how annoying these comments are getting (don't mention them directly!). If they are good friends, they will understand, take the hint and probably stop.

If you find it easier to ignore it, then simply walk on by and think how lucky you are to be pregnant! Most of them are probably just jealous.

Or of course you could just say the old classic 'yes, i'm pregnant...what's your excuse!'

Chances are, you are just carrying a lot of water (a bit easier to lose weight afer the birth!) rather than a massive baby that is going to 'pop out'!

I agree with you, it is not OK for strangers to say this. As for friends, as long as they make it a joke and don't mean to hurt you, then it should be fine.

Next time a stranger tells you that, simply say that you don't appreciate being told that, or strange as it sounds, make a visible face of upset or sadness- then they will feel guilty and may even apologise!

I hope this helps- best of luck for the coming months, your birth, and you and your baby's continuing health. Hang in there and you will be fine!!

Answer 3

I must admit it does annoy me that how you become public propery when you become pregnant, why do people think its alright to say things like this, you wouldnt just go up to a fat person and say my god your huge, so why when your pregnant?

I have the other end of the scale, people always saying oh arnt you small, do you eat ok ect, im pregnant with my 3rd am 17 weeks and getting it already. Even the midwifes have a pop at me for being small in my last pregnancys, but i have small babies, and im only 5 foot 3 and my husband 5 7, what do they want 10 pound babies!!!!

Dont worry you will lose it after the baby is born, and then you will hav everyone comment on how skinny you have got, cant win eh?

Answer 4

It's amazing how your body becomes public property when you are pregnant. I am so bored of every stranger commenting on my size. Half the people say 'oh, you're huge'. The other half say 'what a tiny little bump'. In actual fact, my measurements are bang on!
I told a woman the other day that I have 1.5 weeks to go and she said 'oh well your bump really needs to drop before anything will happen' when in fact my baby engaged weeks ago!!

Maybe you'll be early!

Answer 5

When I was preggies I was huge & if you consider the average amount of weight to gain allowance is 30 pounds.. then the baby added weight but I technically lost weight (and this proved to be true after the baby was born)

Maybe you can appreciate the humor in this story... My freinds thought I was huge, strangers thought I was huge & I thought I was huge... but I knew that it was all baby & to He** with what other people thought.

I was about 7 - 8 months preggies & was babysitting the 3 year old next door. We went to the grocery store. Some lady asked me when I was due & commented that I was huge & the little girl with me looked at this lady's husband (who had a big belly) when he was gonna have his baby.....

I got the last laugh & will cherish that memory forever! The innocence and candidness of small kids is priceless :)

Answer 6

Well one woman I work with has kept up a running commentary from the minute I told people I was pregnant. When she isn't monitoring what I eat and telling me I'm eating too much(!!) she is saying I think you are pumping that bump up at home at night, you're huge etc. She also insisted I was probably further on than I knew I was before my first scan and generally feels it is her place to scrutinise my weight (asking - are you eating again?) and my eating habits. Not that it annoys me much! You just have to grit your teeth and try and ignore it. I'm only 16 weeks so I have a lot more of this to go.

Answer 7

OMG!!!! I am going through the ver same thing!!! Im threating not to go out into public anymore because of this. It hurts so bad to see peoples faces when i tell them when im due which is July 23, 2007. I don't think they know how much it hurts!!!! I just want to cry. Im 5ft 2in tall and weighed 110 before my pregnancy and the only thing i'v gained is a belly. Even my mom tells me im huge! I don't know what to do or how to deal with it but it makes me really depressed that strangers can say such mean things!!! I think we should just start telling people to SHUT UP!!!!!! This weekend was the worst my husbands cousin is pregnant and she is 33 weeks and i am 26 weeks well his family had a BBQ and everyone was like OMG your way bigger than she is and they were takeing all kinds of pictures and measuring us it was sooo embarrising!!! Anyways I know what you mean i hope it gets better for you!! CONGRATS!!!!

Answer 8

I think when you are pregnant everything "thinks" they have the right to pass comment. Try to ignore comments like that, it's hard enough in later stages to be happy enough within yourself without having negative remarks thrown at you.
You'll get through the next two months and will be well worth it when you get there, if this is your first then, congratulations and look forward to having your baby. I loved being pregnant and enjoyed every minute of it. Savour it while you can and ignore all those horrible and insensitive remarks.

Answer 9

Yes it can be very annoying , the reverse is also very annoying when someone is very small for their time ppl say ' where is it ' this was said to me so often that in the end i used to say to them do you not know where you carry a baby , you would want to see the look on their face's . women carry big / small each person is different , god help those people that have no family for whatever reason they must really get a lash .

Answer 10

Tell them that commenting on a woman's size when she is carrying a life is rude and disrespectful.

Tell them sharply and loudly and embarrass the hell out of them, if anyone asks why you were 'snappy' tell them it was hormones.

No-one has the right to say that to you, it really is rude.

Good luck with your baby, and enjoy the next few weeks before your baby is born.