Why is there so many extra-marital affairs these days..?

Question

and i often hear girls saying how much they love the married men. Are the men too sweet and understand them better or there is nothing wrong in the eyes of these women?

I am not talk about $ here.

Answer 1

Because it adds some "spice" when it is illicit and you have to hide and sneak. People are addicted to adrenaline rushes and this is one way to get them. Stupid, if you ask me, as it causes more problems then they can even imagine. They are thinking only of the "right now" and don't even pause to consider how their actions will effect others down the road - or even how it will effect them down the road.

People are selfish and immature and have no guidance or direction as today's society promotes being selfish and doing what you want with no regard for others.

Answer 2

Affairs are no more prevelant now than they ever were. If it seems more common it has more to do with the willingness of people to discuss their personal lives today. For many years that sort of thing was 'shameful' for all parties involved and people kept it to themselves.

There are lots of theories for why people cheat. Some say that it is human nature, that the male of the species has a genetic need to mate with as many females as possible to assure the continuation of this genetic line. In addition, it is argued that women are constantly seeking out the most suitable male to empregnate them and this may or may not be the most suitable male to marry. So the argument is that cheating is just a failure on our part to overcome our natural instincts.

There is also the argument that with climbing divorce rates marriage does not have the respect it once did and that cheating seems like less of a bad thing since hey, we're all going to get divorced anyhow right?

And then there is the argument that as sex becomes more 'acceptable' to society, the act of having sex with another person is not considered a serious breach of a relationship by the individuals who are cheating. I mean, it's just sex right?

Finally, there is always the argument that if something is wrong in a relationship, the person will look elsewhere for satisfaction.

Whether it is one of these, none of these, or a mix, any way you look at it, for the majority of people cheating is an emotionally wrenching experience (for everyone involved). Many a murder, breakdown, and shattered home has resulted from cheating. The reality though is that statistically, cheating is no more common now than it has ever been.

Answer 3

* I will have to agree with another user, I also don't believe men or women take their marriages seriously anymore. Don't get me wrong there are those select few out there who have proven it otherwise and beat the odds and stayed together.

*The way I see it also, is that..."you" or anyone cannot control who you are attracted to, whether it's physically or emotionally or both. Were human.

~Also we all know that everyone has their own morals and ethics and viewpoints on what is right or wrong about infedelity/marriage and what not. On the flip side though, a lot of people base their opinions solely on what society tells them is right or wrong about these types of things. Everyone has become overwhelmed with societies ideas on what is right and what is wrong these days, it's ridiculous...no one can think for themselves anymore it seems like?!

**Anyways like I said we cannot control who we are attracted to, BUT you can control if you act on those feelings with that other person. Right?.

~~Either way...these days cheating seems to be the new fad, and it's more apparent and common than ever. Which is why we keep hearing about it more and more, and to be honest I am never surprised either.
-Although it baffles me when I see someone on here questioning their marriage and they know or think their spouse cheats...and they act so shocked about it? Like it's unheard of or something? I never understood those people, it's like they went to sleep for a couple decades and just woke up.?!.

*There is nothing wrong with men or women who find a married man/woman attractive...it's human nature. It's not any different when a married guy "looks" at females when he is out with his wife or at a strip club...whatever (same difference). *

Answer 4

I Think alot of people get married for the wrong reasons. We all tend to change and get more comfortable with each other the more time we spend together. I honestly think with Men the reason they cheat is because they feel taken for granted and feel like they are missing something in their Life. The reason Women cheat is basically the same reason , but for a woman she needs to feel "emotionally" loved also. I was married for 27 years before my X and I divorced, neither of us cheated but we forgot to keep each other "first" in our marriage and that is very important. We Grew apart and that happens alot if the lines of Communication are not kept open. I think so many People today forget with all of the STD's and AIDS out there, when we have Sex with other people, you are not just having Sex with each other but with whomever she/he has been with in the past, as in we carry Infections and Diseases from one to another. It simply is NOT safe to do that. The Grass is not always Greenier on the Other side and we need to do everything we can with our Spouses/Mates to make it work. I do know that in some cases, its just not gonna happen..

Answer 5

It may be the old thing you want what you can't have. To the single woman looking, married guys are a good catch. Someone caught them so they must be worth something. And men who have been married for a while has been (for lack of better term) trained to notice certain things that single guys have not had pointed out to them every day.

Answer 6

These women either have been cheated on so many times that they'd rather have a man where they know that they are the "other" woman or they are just some home-wreckers. Either way... a married man shouldn't break his vows. Now why are there so many affairs? Divorce is glorified now so no one believes in "till death we do part" anymore. No one feels that through bad times they should still respect their marriage. Its a sad fact.. makes me scared of marriage.

Answer 7

I think there is a two part answer to your question.

First, affairs are not condemned in our society like they used to be. 25-30 years ago and before that, getting caught cheating carried a harsh social stigma, especially for a woman, so people were less inclined to get involved in things that would make them a social outcast.

Second, people talk much more freely about them today and with the use of the Internet, people can tell you about affairs in California or Virgina that you never would have heard about before we started using the Internet.

Answer 8

Married men are attractive to single women because there's a great ego-trip that comes with taking a person away from someone else and being their little secret. Married men also tend to know how to please a woman and how to tell her what she wants to hear (you learn these things in marriage), and single women know that they can have sex and attention without having to worry about breaking up in the future. The men are "safe" because they're already in a relationship with someone else; the pressure to think about the future is gone.

Answer 9

I don't think there ARE so many more extra-marital affairs now than there WERE in the past - it is just that they were not talked about as openly before as they are now.

Answer 10

I think most people in our generation have no self worth. If you had some sort of self respect, you would not cheat on a spouse. If you had self respect, you would not be involved with someone who is married. Marriages go through rough spots and jumping into somebody's bed is not going to solve your problems. ALso people do not take their vows seriously. If you vow to yourself, your spouse and GOd that you will not stray, then you will be damned to bad karma if you do.