Not a question more of a statement really. I moved to lincoln 2 1/2 years ago, lost my job and now I'm stuck here. I'm married but apart from my wife (who I can talk to all of the time) I'm starting to feel quite lonely. My wife works and has lots of friends but I dont really have anyone I can call a friend, (apart from my wife).
2007-04-16 02:17:28 · 16 answers · asked by mark s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
start a hobby. go to the local gym, meet ppl there. take a course in something.
2007-04-16 02:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have lived away alot and know that this feeling can eat you up. especially if your other half has a full social life and friends. Do you work? If not, get out there and find a job, or volunteer, you'll meet people who even if you don't want to meet them socially, you can at least have conversation with. What kind of things are you interested in? The gym? Join one, it'll be a bit awkward at first but you'll end up talking to someone sooner or later. Or what about enrolling in a night class? You have to sit next to someone in class, and will, prob end up conversing. Enjoy football? Go volunteer to help with your local youth team. Whatever you have an interest in there's prob some kind of club you can join. They'll all seem daunting at first but persevere and try to start a conversation even if it's a menial question about something. Good luck.
2007-04-16 02:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by heartshapedglasses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really an answer but a statement too. Since i left college and started work, i havent got NOBODY to talk to. Not that i had many friends in college, but now its even worse. I cant even mingle with people any more cause i am 19 and my work is fulled with 30-60 year olds. I even work at the weekends now cause at the weekends there is nothing for me to do WHATSOEVER, no one to go out with and i just end up smoking and listening to music and staying in. So you ain't the only one. My dad used to tell me, "its a lonely place being intelligent", sometimes i believe him, sometimes i just think there are no real people out there that you can trust and care for without someone having a motive. I just have got family in my phone book. x Life will soon change though, it has a habit of doing that. You'll see. xx
2007-04-16 02:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by london lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start looking for a new job or go back to school to expand your horizons. Join a gym or even a church group of some kind if you are into that kind of thing. I would probably meet new friends by going to a comedy club or the local Y or jsut doing volunteer work. You gotta get out and advertise if you want people to know you are available. Another way is the local type chat rooms just watch out for wierdos...
2007-04-16 02:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by FallenAngel© 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still get a job by advertising yourself locally for gardening maintenance or volunteer work, in herts they charge £15 an hour for garndeners and there is a shortage so have a look in your local area, I thought volunteering sounded really cheesey at first but its actually really good and you meet some genuinely nice people. It gives you a good sense of purpose and increases confidence in yourself too. This puts you in a better position for future work when it shows that you have been volunteering.
Go to the National Trust website for lots of volunteering offers.
Good luck.
2007-04-16 02:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not join a sports club or do you like fishing? join a fishing club. Sorry just a few ideas. I know its hard I moved to Lancaster from Sussex also a long way and it is difficult especially if you are not working. Work is actually a great way of meeting people. What about getting an evening job in a pub that way you'll meet lots of people.
2007-04-16 02:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by lacldc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would u need a friend if u have so nice wife u may talk about everything? i am a staying at home woman i really don't have time for friends cos during day i do stuff at home and then go to gym and in the evening when my hubby comes home i spend time with him. the same i do on weekends. i need other people only when my husband has to go on a business trip and i want to go out. do not miss other people at all.
2007-04-16 02:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a gym or go to the local pub and people will start chatting to you. Dependin on age and if you have kids why dont you both go out together or invite her friends/partners over for dinner and get chatting to the men.
2007-04-16 04:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your wifes friends married, if you have them over for couple evenings meals or whatever then you'll gradually get to know the guys. Good luck.
2007-04-16 02:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by truth_and_time_tells_all 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hasnt your wife got any male friends she could introduce you too? maybe her friends have bfs or husbands you have things in common with??
trouble is in my situation ive had socalled friends hurt me - so i prefer just having my hubby as my close friend and keep others at a nice but at distant reach. at least you have a wife to talk to - some people dont have anyone.
2007-04-19 23:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by Swan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find a job and then try and make friends there or you could try goin out with your wifes friends partners or even try goin to your local pubs and get chattin to people!
Good luck friend hunting!
2007-04-16 02:22:48 · answer #11 · answered by x Danielle x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋