He keeps talking to other women whether it be getting there phone number from work or talking to them on the internet and I just can't take the feeling of rejection any longer and I want out but he gets so angry when I tell him I want a divorce, that I'm scared to death of him.
2007-04-16 01:50:13 · 21 answers · asked by mv05_jc06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would try marriage counseling as a last resort. It's too easy to cheat these days and in so many different ways. So maybe the two of you need to go back to the beginning and start over. Go over the rules of marriage again with the help of a counselor. I despise fighting with anyone so I understand how you feel. Then again, maybe there is nothing to save in your marriage. This might sound crazy, but sometimes marriage counselors can help you through a divorce and help the two of you settle things, and divorce, amicably. Good Luck
2007-04-16 02:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by redlucky7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 25 years in the Navy, I've lost count of how many times I've heard this very same story... Look, very honestly, your husband has never been faithful, and never will be if what you've said is true. So there is no marriage here that is worth sacrificing for. Next, your new/old boyfriend is no prize either, and that's just another divorce in the future. So don't bother with that either. You need to establish a life for yourself, eventually find yourself someone worthy (they are out there), and as the old song says, quit "looking for love in all the wrong places". Yeah, divorce is painful and stressful. But it's short considering that a lifetime commitment is not being honored, and that is much worse.
2016-04-01 04:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Except for the advice to murder, I agree with everyone else here, you have to leave him. If what you say is true, then he's basically cheating on you. If you're afraid of the fight to come, then I suggest gathering some information first. If there's to be a fight then make sure you have powerful ammo - hire a private detective and get your proof if your fear warrants. In either case, it's time to leave.
I truly hope that there are no children involved (if so, then evidence of cheating may be that much more helpful for your divorce).
2007-04-16 02:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is realize that you are in control of yourself. For every decision you make there are going to be consequences. Some of those will be good, some will be bad. Fear of a fight isn't much of a reason to stick around. If you believe he will become physically violent then put measures in place to protect yourself from that such as have a brother or male cousin come over while you pack your stuff. If he has harmed you take out a restraining order and have the police stand there while you pack some of your stuff.
2007-04-16 02:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave. Take a day off work, pack up whatever's important to you (anything you bought or anything valuable that belongs to you) and go somewhere safe. A hotel, or a shelter if you have to. An attorney can have your husband served with divorce papers, these days your husband doesn't have to let you get a divorce, you can just do it.
If you share money, take what you need or transfer it into a private account. If he has access to your money, protect it. You'll need it.
Best of luck to you.
2007-04-16 02:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am amazed how sometimes we act out toward the other person in relationships when two people no longer can live with one another the answer is to seperate it sounds like your other half is a control freak which is not heathly for each of you I think you best should seek out help and get out before you get huet by being punched or throwing around it sounds like he is ready to snap Best of Luck
2007-04-16 02:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to go and cant change his unacceptable behavior then take your time in planning your 'escape'.
Talk with a lawyer first and discuss how this might be done. Sounds like you need to get somewhere he cant find you. A lawyer is the best way for that since he/she can act as intermediary.
Go slow, then go and don't look back. Good luck and I hope you find happiness.
2007-04-16 01:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speaking from experience...here is what I did when it was time for me to take the leap from abuse.
I planned out 6 months in advance, set money aside, talked to a lawyer that was pro bono(at the time my income wasn't where I could afford and attorney..there are org out there to help)...
But plan plan plan and then get the heck out of there.
Gof Bless you and good luck
2007-04-16 03:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by Karrie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are afraid of him is scary!! I have to agree and say leave while he is at work but do it when you have somewhere to go but get out while you are still safe and whole.
The fact that he is disrespecting your relationship by getting other women's phone numbers and/or talking to them on the internet tells me he will move on and stalk someone new once you are out of the picture.
First and foremost protect yourself. Get out, get an attorney and a restraining order if you are truly afraid that he may harm you!
2007-04-16 01:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing is to call the police and ask him to sign the divorce papers in front of them he have no other chose to sign without fighting.
2007-04-16 02:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋