Who believes in spanking children?

Question

I don't personally, but my three year old daughter is out of control. I've gotten suggestions that I should swat her to put her in line, but I don't think that's a soloution. I'd never dream of hurting my elfin princess.

African, be glad you are behind a computer screen. You'd never say that to my face.
I take comfort in that fact that you are an inhuman cretin.

She's on my 360, isn't she a cutie? Who'd ever hurt a little person like that?

Ralphie, don't refer to my daughter in that manner, she is a beautiful and happy child...
But you contradict yourself, in the statistics that you are so fond of, you state that blacks are more likely to abuse their children... I see spanking a child as a form of abuse...
Shut up, please, you have done enough damage to yourself.

And I teach her that education and self reliance is paramount, if you must know.

Answer 1

I believe in spanking and corporal punishment, although not too extreme. It's effective but it also hurts me to do that to my own kids....

Answer 2

We have four children ages 12,13,14 and 21 we have never spanked we found that taking things away such as tv,computer time,playstation or going outside to play always worked because they are loosing something they really will miss and a spanking in my opinion just sends the message if someone doesn't act like you want them to, to hit them and you get your way.And a spanking only last a minute and there is no time to think about what they did or the consequences. I did the same thing when they were younger no outside playtime,no tv...just no extras.It worked for us and I know every child is different but it didn't hurt our oldest he is a senior in college on full academic scholarship and has never gave us any problems THANK GOD!!! Good Luck

Answer 3

I'm 41 and I was raising my children right in the middle of the "spank or not spank" debate. I was spanked as a child and although it was an immediate deterrent, I'm not at all sure I learned life lessons from it. I decided that I'd use a little of both in raising both my boys, who are now 21 and 19, and having seen the after effects of spanking as opposed to the times I simply scolded and gave other forms of discipline, such as time out and reasoning, empathy building, etc, I found that my boys responded more positively to the verbal approach. Spanking just escalated an already stressful situation. I found myself using the "explain why its wrong, give them a chance to figure out a way to change the behavior" method, and I have to tell you that I raised some very awesome human beings who are exemplary adults. Violence begets violence...no matter what grandma tells you....

Answer 4

I have last spanked my daughter 8 years ago, when she said "F--- You Mom!!" Before that, I think when she crossed the street against my calling, and nearly got it from a car.
She is now 19 Graduated High School on the Deans list, Honor Roll from 9th grade. Working full time and going to school.
My son, maybe I should have spanked him more when he was younger and getting mouthy. Now he is 15, too old to spank, so I have to be VERY creative with the discipline.

My Ex used to use a belt, that is why I left, WITH the kids!!. I let him know that that was against the law and I would prosecute.

My mom used a wooden spoon...broke them...my dad used a belt, then took me out for ice cream afterwards. Messed me up!! I try not to repeat that cycle.

Answer 5

As a child, I was not spanked but whipped (there is a difference). I can't say if it helped me or hurt but I do believe it was the only thing that my mother knew to do. There are things you can do like distracting her with an activity or a toy when you see her going into the bad behavior. In my experience, scolding always made me pay attention. Hearing someone you love say that they are disappointed in you works better than physical punishment. As long as it's not said in a mean and hateful way. You should do what you think is best for your child because you're the one taking care of her and loving her

Answer 6

There is a line between discipline and abuse. I am a firm believer in spanking. Not beatings. Just one or two pops on the bottom. Never out of anger. If you are angry then you need to wait, count to 10,100 or whatever before disciplining your child.

THis is the first generation that the no spanking rule went into effect. Look at these kids.

No offense, not discipling children can hurt them more in the future than disciplining then. THey do not like it, but I thank God, that I got spankings as a child.

My son is nearly 16 and I layed down the law early. If you do not do it early, then you are going to have a helluva time later on. I spanked. Never out of anger. He is the most respectful child in the world.

I know that it is difficult, but once you spank, you implement alternative forms of punishment also. Spanking makes the alternative happen. For example time outs. You can implement time outs easier when a child knows that spanking is an option. When they get older, as my child is, spanking is out and grounding is in.

Any form of punishment is going to hurt the child. They hate discipline, but they will love you for structure and respect you.

You cannot be a child's friend. You are thier provider and they depend on you to raise them up. You have to law down the law. I have seen parents with out of control teens and they are miserable, the teen is self destructive and doing things that are going to get them killed or jailed.

Your daughter is beautiful and I am sure that you love her with all of your heart. Yet, part of that love as a parent is discipline.

I hope that you are not offended, it was not intended to be. Best of wishes to you and your baby girl.

Answer 7

First of all, there is a huge difference between abuse and spanking.

I was a very rebellious/belligerent child from the get-go. Trying to "reason with me" or suspension or putting me in a "time out" didn't work; I would just defy them and walk right back out. Because of this, everyone spanked me... my grandfather said that he spanked me more than all his children and grandchildren put together. I believe if they had not spanked me, I would have ended up in prison, or worse. As it is, I have had zero infractions of the law in my life (not even a speeding ticket). But, they also gave me lots and lots of positive reinforcement (that is just as important). And they also explained to me why I was getting a spanking. I love them with all my heart and I'm so glad they wailed on my bottom... I really needed it.

Those people who give those rubbishy arguments against spanking don't have a clue. I have a super high self-esteem and spanking didn't teach me to hit... I got spanked for hitting people. I have absolutely no violent tendencies. Look at how the children are ending up these days. Just how many school shootings, violence, rebellion, etc. have we had from children who were not spanked? As people quit spanking more and more, these things will continually go up more and more. Just look at the statistics from back in the days when people spanked.

And by the way, “Spare the rod and spoil the child” is a line by the 17th century English poet Samuel Butler, not the Bible (I just see that a lot on these "spanking" questions). The Bible says, "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him" (Proverbs 13:24). But I definitely believe that both statements are true.

Answer 8

I agree with a few of the previous posters. I am for spanking (not beating). I constantly hear that today's children are just out of control. Today's parents are far too easy on their kids. I got spanked when I was younger. I already said that I'm spanking my kids when they misbehave. Instead, other parents' feel they need to explain what the child is doing wrong. The child knows... especially after you've already told the child 6 or 7 times.

Answer 9

I agree with spanking children. As a mother of a 3 year old, I think firm discipline is necessary at times. But, where parents fail is where spanking becomes a beating, that I am not okay with.

Answer 10

Not only should you spank, you should tear that *** up. That's what's wrong with society that's where most of the problems lie. The Bible clearly states spare the rod...spoil the child. Now days you got people using time out and dog collars for their kids, hey do what you do but I grew up getting my *** tore up and I turned out damn good, I never been in any real trouble never been to jail, neither me nor my siblings. So a lil *** whooping want hurt anyone.

Answer 11

I do. I'm not saying using a belt or something, but a pop on the rear does the trick. You can't do it when you're angry, because the child is still growing and the child can be hurt. I've always explained first what would happen if my daughter got out of line. Like any 2-4 year old, she'd try me, but because I was consistant, she knows to control herself. You also have to give them an outlet. Me, I taught/teach her karate. She likes it and she's learned to control herself. At 7, my baby just has to be spoken to.

You gotta catch them when they're young or things can get out of hand. My ex-wife is going through problems with her teenage son, who jumped at her.