Our relationship is just 8 months. It started last december, he said he was broke because he bought a new car and expected that i foot the bills, then he went to bury his grandmother i had to continue paying then he decided he needed to go into some big investments and this time i not only had to pay bills I had to fuel the car, give him pocket money and take care of emergencies without complaining.
2007-04-16 01:33:10 · 29 answers · asked by Angela 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
are you nuts???? your paying for everything when he is clearly doing nothing.
ditch this guy and get someone who will treat you like you deserve!!!! and will share the bills with you!
2007-04-16 01:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is either on drugs or gambling.
Though I know 8 months are not much, but not less either to just say and leave him right away, it's more important that you look seriously at this. Man should make his own money, to cover expenses not only his, but sometimes yours. There is really no reason for a guy to ask his gf to pay his bills, not even miscellanous. It does sound like he's a loser.
You must have been too naive and too kind to be paying all his debts like that. Money may not be an important thing if you love him so much. But does he love you the same way that much - to ask you to do all that **** for him????? I really wonder.
So please, if you don't want to end up poor, cheated and regreting, got to decide some good moves now. Everyone wants to be happy - and it starts from this very beginning.
2007-04-16 01:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Alice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, Im just going to be really blunt...you are stupid. NEVER give a man money. My father taught me that a real man can handle his own business. A man should never ask a woman to pay his way for anything. He is taking advantage of you and you need to get rid of this guy RIGHT NOW!!!! I had a very brief relationship with my child's father. You want to know why? Early on in the relationship he had the nerve to ask me for money...it was over just like that. I've never in my life given a man money and I never will. I was absolutely disgusted. I can't believe you have been paying his bills for 8 months!!!!!! Leave him now!!!!
2007-04-16 02:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by KoKo.Licious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there several times. I dont know how the rest of your relationship is going, but I would say that you have to tell him to get on with it. Otherwise he will continue to lean on you and take your money. It is extremely hard but perhaps you should suggest he take a second job to pay for his investments and car fuel.
If I were you I'd start to put any spare cash you have into an account he doesnt know about, and tell him you dont have any spare cash.
2007-04-16 12:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by fruit&nut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the?!?! you are definitely being taken advantage of, and this guy is financially irresponsible. if you know that you'll be broke buying a new car DONT BUY IT!!! he is obviously too immature to handle a serious relationship so ditch him. he is being a complete leech. a real man would sell the new car and buy a cheaper one, don't go into big investments WHEN YOU HAVE NO MONEY, and take care of his woman. you are obviously being put under tremendous strain which is unfair to you, and if he cared about you , he wouldn't put you under that pressure
go get an upgrade. you can do better
2007-04-16 03:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by maraesa1000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being used.......case closed. I too am paying all the bills, including gas to get my step child. It used to be a fair share billing, but somehow I ended up taking on more than I am required too, and now my kids are suffering for it. What am I doing about it?? I refuse to give any money for gas. His gas, he can pay for it. I refuse to buy clothes. His body, he can dress it. And there are 2 more bills I'm about to say "no more" too.
Time you started taking care of yourself and tell him to do the same thing, or leave. It will only get worse. Trust me!!!
2007-04-16 01:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 15:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think he is expecting too much of you. Unless you want to remain completely committed to this boyfriend, you need to have a serious talk with him to say that you are no longer prepared to support him financially while he spends his money on other things.
2007-04-16 01:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by Beanbag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he has got the life of riley while you foot the bills!!! get shot of him he's a user. wonder how many other women have been fooled by this.
Would he foot the bills if you needed your money???
All the time you are with this creep you will never have money.
2007-04-16 05:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Means he is taking advantage of your kindness and that it is time he gets a job and if he has one already he should take care of his money and not waste it. I would not stick to a man like that he will never change if you keep on supplying him with cash. Or just tell him you are short of cash and see what happens then. I am sure you can do better. Take care:))
2007-04-16 01:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between supporting someone for a good reason in an established relationship but from what you've said here, he has relied on you to bail him out from the word go and that is not good.
Speak to him, ask him when he intends to stand on his own 2 feet money wise and tell him you aren't able or willing to fund his lifestyle any longer.
2007-04-16 01:42:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋