My brother has been married for 18 months to a girl that he has known for 7 years, and recently she found out that he had been cheating. He has totally stopped contact with the other women and has left her in limbo, as he says that everything is a big mess. Is what he doing to her right, or normal or does he just want time to sort things out?? i'm worried about him
2007-04-16 00:31:59 · 14 answers · asked by Loli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
unfortunately his life is his own you cant sort this one out for him, everyone makes mistake, hopefully he will have learned his lesson and it wont happen again, however its not really anyone elses business but him and his wife, so you gotta just let them be.
2007-04-16 01:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it is his problem, let him handle it, but if he or she ask for help, then it's time to meddle.
I think at this point in his life, he must had some regret, that's why he has to sort things out.
On the part of his wife, it was a very painful experience for her to find out his infedility, it is up to her if she could still accept your brother, and just forget what happen, but it is her choice if she can't forgive, better separate, because it might happen again,,,, and again...
2007-04-16 07:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by emma l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's a bummer that your brother had an affair, it's a very good thing that he's left the other woman. You, as his sister, should encourage him to never do this to his wife again. He needs someone to hold him accountable. I don't think it's a good idea for you to be that person, but maybe you could suggest one to him.
Your role is to encourage him in his marriage. He has promised to love his wife only. You can encourage him to keep this promise.
2007-04-16 08:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your problem. Your brother got himself in a big mess and now he's going to have to sort it out. This is between husband and wife!
2007-04-16 07:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the married couple both want the marriage to continue it would be best to see professional relationship counselling. Othes, no matter how well intentioned should mind their own business.
2007-04-16 07:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Pure Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been cheating then he needs to come clean and tell this other woman thats its over or his wife if he feels the marriage was a mistake.
2007-04-16 07:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably needs time to sort things out or he doesn't know how to end the relationship.
2007-04-16 07:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is his mistake to live with and sort out. that he should cheat after so long is strange and there will be things about his relationships that will have been troubling him before the marriage. try to let him sort it out for himself and have faith in his abilitiy to do it
2007-04-16 12:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about what he's doing? You can bet when he cheated, the last thing on his mind was you.
2007-04-16 07:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask your brother that question,Only he knows how he is feeling.
Maybe talking to him will help him decide.
2007-04-16 07:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋