my brother and i are really tight and i'm really geting along fine with my sister-in-law married one year 1kid & 1on the way but the thing is that i don't know what goes on behind closed doors my brother tells me that he can't stand the way she does things tells me everything and looks to me for advice i'm just a teen what do i know about love? but on the other hand she comes to me telling me she doesn't understand whats wrong with him and what she should do to make him happy i don't want to tell her what my brother told me cuz i told him i would never tell anyone what he tells me but if i tell her as to make like it came from me it would hurt her everyday its like that around the house but when they don't wont to talk to each other thats a whole diff story he yelling at me to come here cuz he needs someone to talk to she yelling at me to talk with her man what do i do? love um both but i'm hating what their doing to me..how do i get them to stop fighting and to become lovers again?
2007-04-16 00:31:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not easy to be a teen and feel you have to deal with their issues! You may want to consider how to put boundries in your life, if you do it will help you throughout your life. To be honest, tell both of them this making you sick, they are doind what is called CRAZY MAKING. You do not have to listen, comment, nor allow yourself in the middle, that is what you are doing, ALLOWING IT. It is unhealthy for each of you. They need to go to counceling, your not there to solve their issues. Be smart and let them know how you feel and stick to your words. Good Luck!
2007-04-16 00:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very difficult situation and i was in one pretty much the same as you and man did it suck. You really need to talk to both of them either seperatly or together and tell them that you are finding this really difficult to handle and that you love them both but you don't want to hear about their problems and that they should be talking to each other about it and not coming to you for advice. That is what i done with my bro and sis in law, sure they aren't going to like it too much but you are only young and there are certain things that we shouldn't know about family. It may just be all the hormones going through her at the moment but the last thing you want to do is be inbetween it. So i say talk to them and be honest about how you're feeling and go from there. Goodluck and i hope everything works out for you.
2007-04-16 07:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do a thing to make them love each other but you must take care of your relationship with each one of them. You do that by telling them that you love them both and are too close to the situation to be objective and you don't want to be caught in the middle. They need professional help and you are wise in knowing you're not the help they need. And when they argue and fight, remember this: No matter how flat a pancake is, it always has two sides.
2007-04-16 07:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you love them, but you don't want to be stuck in the middle of their marriage problems. You can't solve their problems for them, only they can do that. If they need someone to talk to, they should go for marriage counselling.
2007-04-16 07:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just a teen. They should not dump their sh*t on you. They are adults, tell them to solve their own problems or go for counselling. You are not a counsellor.
2007-04-16 13:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they deserve each other, no one else would put up with their crap.
2007-04-16 07:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋