In a relationship
What do you do if violence has become a part of your relationship?
2007-04-16 00:18:43 · 85 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ERM ........... NO!
2007-04-16 00:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by Keira 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No..NO...NO! It is NEVER right for a man to hit a woman. And all of you feminists, don't get excited! It's NOT because she is "weaker" or "smaller" or "frailer"! It is because hitting is a from of trying to maintain control in a relationship. The person doing the hitting is trying to "lift" themselves up by demeaning the other person! They probably have self-esteem issues, or have grown up thinking that was how relationships work! THAT IS NOT THE NORM!!! If your partner has started hitting, then you need to tell her or him that it stops or YOU ARE GONE! And then, stick to it! There is NO reason where one partner should hit another, no matter HOW mad they get, or what it is about! If they can't talk about it, then they need to get a way for a while. A couple of hours or a couple of days, but take the time to cool off so that you can discuss what it is that created the problem and work on solving it! Physical abuse will only escalate as the person gets angrier and angrier that you don't change after the LAST beating! Get help or get out!!
2007-04-16 00:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ken S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the answer is yes.
If the woman is going to injure/kill the man or injure/kill the kid(s) then it is permissible for the man to hit the woman to keep her from executing either action. Aside from this situation, no person has the right to hit another, relationship or not. If violence has become a part of your relationship, then violent person needs to get help or the victim needs to get out.
2007-04-19 08:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by Ghost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never okay for either partner to hit the other one but, since I was raised to never ever ever hit a woman no matter what, I would say that it's double indemnity to hit a woman. It is up to you to break the chain of violence. If you are being hit, don't fight back, just get out. If there are children in the picture, you are teaching them that it is acceptable for a man to hit a woman and so you children would be inclined to continue what they believe to be acceptable.
My sister's first husband was abusive and she allowed him to be so because she had been taught that divorce was such a dirty thing. she finally kicked that loser to the curb. Her 2nd husband started down the same path and she sent him packing before he had the chance to get worse. She has now met a christian man with good values and they are very happy together. Don't waste time on an abusive simpleton when you deserve better.
2007-04-16 00:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by theanswerman63 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not ok for a man to hit a woman!
If violence has become part of your life then get out now while you can and have him reported to the police. If you sit and take it , it will get worse.
2007-04-16 00:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no it is not right for a man to hit a woman. Well if violence comes a part of your relationship you should get out of it right away, because it will not get any better
2007-04-17 03:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a man should be able to hit a woman if she hits him first! People should not use violence on each other at all in the first place, I would never ever even think of laying a hand on anyone, even when I have been in situations where they deserved a lot worse! If a girl is prepared to smack a man then she should be prepared to take one back!
2007-04-16 01:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Georgie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are looking for an answer to fix the relationship so that you can stay in it, the answer is, there is no fix. Even if you love him and he claims to love you, it will NOT get better.
I know everyone is telling you to just leave him, easy fix, done....
But I know its not as easy as that. Yes, you DO have to leave him, but get help doing it.
Call on a sister, friend, mum, someone you can tell and that will help you get away from the relationship.
Stay with that friend, get into something new like sport, a course, a hobby or something and make sure you have the support and people you need to talk to.
If you are in a violent relationship, I hope this is the first step out of it for you:)
2007-04-16 02:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE AND DON'T COME BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A man that hits on a woman is an animal and will never change, I don't care how many times he say he is sorry, abusers love this words I'M SORRY.. They hide behind this and then blame the episodes on you. They prey on anything to get the chance to hit on his spouse. It gives them power to see fear in their eyes. The most important thing is that a woman should realize when she is in an abusive relationship, she has to know that leaving is the only way to free herself and most of all claim her pride a woman who stays becomes a slave a robot for this beast and the longer she stays the more incapable she becomes on believing in her self and they end up either to submissive to ever get out or of course the most common one DEAD!!! I left my first husband 18 years ago, I was seventeen and pregnant, I took my baby and ran to Florida to my parents, my son he is now a Marine and a loving man with a good heart because we toughed him to respect women to love them, I made it my business to tell him from childhood that men are physically stronger than women and that hiting on someone helpless would make him a monster. Thank God I had the good sense of taking my baby and run. I'm so proud of him... I hope that if you or anyone you know is in abusive situation that you can get out run and start new. It's the only way. ABUSE IS NEVER OK.. GOOD LUCK.
2007-04-16 00:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its right as men are the stronger sex(in most cases anyway). But it is also just as important for the woman not to hit the bloke, this will just enrage him more.
To avoid getting into all out warfare with your partner you should try a 'magic word' for example when my wife and I argue we will have a word we use when we feel the argument is getting out of control we use CODE RED. once that is said both parties go do something away from each other and return to discussions when they are more relaxed. Obviously this will only work if both parties are mature and not violent in nature usually. If your man is a violent person normally then ditch him
2007-04-16 00:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by FS Man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a home where I awoke to a stupid man (father) hitting a wonderful woman (mother) for no reason other than he just being upset (nothing to do with her at all) I am completely against a man ever hitting a woman no matter what kind of relationship or problem....
2007-04-16 00:26:48 · answer #11 · answered by Mando 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋