It seems like everyone who is married jokes that they would rather be single or they just actually get divorced... so who is glad to be married out there? anyone?
2007-04-16 00:05:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
On June 9th, 2007, my wife and I will have been married for 34 years. Was it always "The Waltons"? No...we had our share of arguments, and still do! The secret is that we are committed to EACH OTHER. We are each other's best friend, not just husband and wife. I know if everybody else in the world would forsake me, my wife would stand by me, even if she had to stand alone, and I would do the same for her. When you are first married, you think that there could NEVER be anybody else's love as strong as yours! I know because I felt the same way. But I learned that over the years your love changes from an emotional surge to a deep, abiding love that gives BOTH of strength. The secret is to communicate with each other! Nobody is always wrong, and nobody is always right! So don't be afraid to admit it, and don't be so proud that you won't be the first to apologize! My wife and I have argued over some stupid stuff, and usually after a few hours, one of us will go to the other and apologize. Why? Because we think we were wrong? Not necessarily! But think about this...every day that you stay mad and don't talk to each other, is one more day that you could have enjoyed each other and now those days are gone! We have rules about our arguments, as strange as that may sound to some. We NEVER bring up things that we have already argued about and resolved. Those are over and done with. We never say things just to HURT the other person. The argument is enough hurt! Also, remember this, the opposite of love is not hate! The opposite of love is indifference! You know yourself that you have been so angry at somebody you loved and felt like you hated them! But how often have you felt that way about the clerk at WalMart? Never! Why? Because you don't know him or her...you are indifferent to them! Do you see the difference. And finally, yes finally, I have said this many times on Yahoo. You hear people say that love is a 50-50 proposition. That is a lot of bunk! What you are saying to the person that you are supposed to love,is that you will meet them halfway, but that is it! You have placed limits on your love! True love and love that makes marriages work is 100- 100 where both parties are willing to give 100% with no expectations of getting anything in return. So that is MY take on it, for what it is worth.
2007-04-16 00:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by Ken S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is what you make of it.., Marriage is a full time commitment, u have to be willing to sacrafice for each others happiness, but if it is always one sided it will never work, you have to be a partnership, and be devoted to the other for a lifetime..and its hard to do and alot of people these days find it hard to actually achieve, to many easy outs these days, to easy to just walk away when things get hard.
Alot of people Joke about wishing they were single, or could get a divorce, doesnt mean when u get down to it, that they actually would. Then there are people that joke about it to mask their true feelings .. it depends on the person, and their marriage.
Im married and im happy , does it mean its perfect, no, very rare to find the "perfect" marriage where 2 people just completely mix together perfectly and have zero problems, most marriages have their problems some bigger then others.. but if you work at it, anything can be solved, and at the end of the day, if u'd rather be fighting with that person then laying in the arms of another, then you've made the right decision. And in the long run, will be worth more to u..
2007-04-16 00:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have it any other way even on our worst days. It takes a lot of work but it is worth it. I used to wonder the same thing when I was single! lol
But you find out things you didn't know, by the Grace of God, I say, until you are married that may have been deal breakers. I will never get divorced. That's the easy way out. I took my vows to heart, literally. Just be sure to marry the RIGHT PERSON and not settle. NEVER SETTLE for less! Be honest and communicative constantly. Kisses cure a lot!
2007-04-16 00:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ment to be with some one and there is an open relationship with good comunication and a willingness to work out any problems that may accure then there is no reason why a marrage wont work. My sister and her husband have been married for 12 years and you sould see them they are like teenagers that have just fallen in love. They have there fights like any relationship but thay work it out. So yes it is possible to have a happy marrage, just got to find the right person and make sure you know them long enough before you rush into marrage.
2007-04-16 00:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very happily married I just wish I would have done it sooner.When you are with the right person marriage is a beautiful thing.True love only comes once in a lifetime.If you are blessed enough to find your true love you need to hold on and enjoy the ride...Best Wishes to you.
2007-04-16 00:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People fall for the myth that when you get married, it's all "Happily Everafter". The reality is it's not. Life has it's ups and downs, people change, etc. which makes people change. I'm sure you've heard the line:"That's not the one I fell in love with years ago.....". Unless you are going to work at the relationship, and it requires alot of work, stay single.
2007-04-16 00:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes very happily, you just got to pick the right one do not expect to change someone so make your pick count and date for a while so you get to know the real person not just who you think they are. We dated for two years lived together for one year and have been married for eleven and it is so good. yes there are times when you get mad at each other but you always get over it. If it is the right person keep trying.
2007-04-16 00:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mary B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad I am married.. Especially that I married someone who is so understanding of me and my weird ways lol.. I don't think there is anyone else in this world who could put up with half of the crap I give him.
2007-04-16 00:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When youre married, you generally get so settled with someone, you joke about singledom because it was more exciting. But in reality, if someone is married to the right person, they dont really miss single life. When youre single people judge, manipulate and lie to you, strangers even. Its frustrating, you dont get laid and you spend all of your time wishing you were in something stable and loving.
2007-04-16 00:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. I am happily married and would not want to go back being single again. I am much happier being married. It is nice to share our lives together!
We are going on 3 years and it gets better :)
2007-04-16 00:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by Ann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋