one of my best mates is stunning, got a boyfriend, loads of friends. Whenever im around her i feel really inadequate & jealous. How can i stop feeling this way? I just feel like she is perfect & just makes me not feel good about myself being with her sometimes. I cant not be friends with her because shes one of my best mates
2007-04-15 23:04:36 · 12 answers · asked by helen b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You will always come across girls like that in your life, i had it too at school and it sucked, but i just realised that i had some great features and qualities of my own that needed to come out. Just have more confidence in yourself. Besides you never know your friend probably admires some things about you otherwise why else would she be your good mate!
2007-04-15 23:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm..i would have felt the same way if i were u ....but i am like ur best mate... in a simple way...everyone is special. every single person has their own talent and uniqueness. if she has tons of friends and a boyfriend it shows that she is an open and frank..it shows that those two things are not you're strongest points. if they were it would have been you in her place now. but u are a entirely different person and dont let her put you down. NO ONE IS PERFECT. everyone makes mistakes. EVEN GOD MAYBE. u have your own points and ur own weakness. please dont feel bad.....and dont feel jealous either.. if u are jealous it just shows that u feel a little insecure..and true friends feel good when another is happy. it's okay.
Remember..
Things Happen But Life Goes On,
And Dont Let This Incident Put You Down.
2007-04-16 00:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by Goofball Chucha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her in private you feel inadequate because she could help to make you feel better, it always helps to talk to someone and if you talk to her then you might find out she feels similar when around you. For some reason everyone always seems to find something that they aren't as good at as a friend because we can't help it. Focus on the positive and things will turn around.
2007-04-15 23:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by sumthing_to_say_12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus because she has a boyfriend, loads of friends and look stunning does not mean that you are not good. god is very fair. if you are not as pretty as her, there is sure something else that you are better at.
what for you compare yourself with her? everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. have more self-esteem. if you are confident, others will think that you are stunning as well.
dun feel jealous over trival things like that. she is your best mate after all. find your own strengths and promote it. have more confidence. i am sure you will be just as stunning as her. (:
2007-04-15 23:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by dolphin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
motives i does not be pals with somebody: If the guy is a straightforward liar If the guy is an energetic member of the KKK If the guy is a detrimental member of society who's merely out for themselves and does not care who they injury If the guy is a newborn or animal molester, abuser or killer. I even have standards and anybody who ought to be my pal has to even have standards. there are specific circumstances that observe to friendship and merely because of the fact anybody's are diverse does no longer mean they might't be a good pal. I even have have been given pals from all over the country and that all of them meet my standards of being a "pal".
2016-12-29 15:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there's nothing wrong with being jealous...just don't take it too far with gossiping...I mean, some people are happy with having everything, while others can be happy w/o everything... I don't know the type of person u r, but u stay true to ur friends(so it seems). like I've said, it's alright to be jealous, just don't let it control u.
2007-04-15 23:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by lost monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno...i would feel the same way as you would.
im sure you have lots of qualities that she doesn't though.
and if she is one of your best friends, im sure you're not really inadequate ...i think people tend to make good friends with people they feel are equals to themselves.
2007-04-15 23:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one day she may feel jealous of you for what ever reason be it job, family, baby
it is one of those things be friends try not to get too jealous
2007-04-15 23:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure soz but it sounds like u have a low selfasteem (if thats spellt right) soz i wish i could help?
2007-04-15 23:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by amy_baby123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must have personality traits that you don't like, even best friends do. I bet you wouldn't swap them with her.
2007-04-16 02:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by truth_and_time_tells_all 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋