My 'friend' and I had a huge argument a couple of days ago, he was swearing at me and calling me very, very rude names and saying things like my friends only hang out with me because they feel sorry for me (they actually don't, the like me for me) and he was saying im antisocial and that I never hang out with my friends (its the school holidays at the moment and I haven't spent a day without my friends yet)
He also said that whatever I do has to go by him.
He went to the Blue Mountains the day after and now he is back he TXT messages me and says "wanna go to the beach tomorrow?" i didnt message back.
Then he said over msn to one of my friends "Oh, i was bored so i picked an argument with Jordan (me)." That just makes it worse.
Now he is sending me emails saying (a quote) "Im sorry for what I said, I forgive myself for saying those things to you I believe you should forgive me too"--- He forgives himself? what?
Do you believe saying sorry can make this all better?
2007-04-15 22:32:08 · 18 answers · asked by homer_1561 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Also he lied to my face about 3 days before all this happened. he said he would never say anything mean to me again, and in the argument i mentioned that and he said "So, im a liar" but then when I lied to him he went on about 'Oh god hates liars and he will smite you and lying is a sin, I never lie"
2007-04-15 22:34:18 · update #1
Also he isnt a homosexual
2007-04-15 22:38:39 · update #2
No. Saying I'm sorry is a start but only if you're sincere. And this person doesn't sound very sincere. He forgives himself? That's very big of him.
You sound as if you have plenty of other friends, so I suggest you hang out with them and drop this loser.
2007-04-15 22:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Alice K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Can Make It All Better Depending On The Situation.
In Case I'd Say No You Shouldn't Forgive Him He Was A Jerk For Doing That Just Because "He Was Bored"
Real Friends Don't Start Arguments For Entertainment.
2007-04-16 08:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by clare w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget your friend. REAL friends don't go as low as that. REAL friends don't pick fights just because they're bored. REAL friends actually say they are sorry, not that crap about he forgives himself etc., I mean really what planet does that person think they're on. If someone is genuinely sorry, they would face you & apologise to your face, they would show some remorse. It may not make everything better but it may relieve some of the tension. If you want to stay friends with this person then I think you need to have a serious discussion with them & let them know that they will have to earn your trust & respect because they went to far with their remarks & deceit. If they were my friend they would now be an EX. Good luck!
2007-04-16 07:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Vera K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I got out of jail, a guy who barely knew me, let me stay at his house for free until I finished my probation. He paid for everything right down to my cigarettes and haircolor. All I had to do was walk his dogs while he was at work and keep his terminally ill boyfriend company.. I didn't feel like doing that, His boyfrind was creepy... dying people gross me out and I let the dogs crap all over the place while I was on the phone having phone sex with some guy who called me collect from jail at $4.25 for the 1st minute and a$1.69 a minute thereafter, per call.
I hid the bill and one day my friend was home and got the mail before I dragged myself out of bed at the usual 3 pm.
Actually it wasn't the phone bill. It was a collections notice.
He got mad and threw me out.
Now he's mad at me. What is wrong with him?
I think he owes me an apology for being such a jerk and throwing me out with only a 7 days notice.
What can I do to get back at him?
2007-04-16 05:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by Marjorie Astrofsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you are even asking the question tells me you already know the answer. This friend sounds like a controlling jerk. Why subject yourself to any more of it? He's projecting his crap on you and the longer you continue to position yourself to catch it, the worse it's going to get.
What you are describing is abusive behavior. It will continue and will get worse the longer you stay involved with this person. Time to cut that "friend" out of your life.
2007-04-16 05:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by scorp5543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Saying sorry and asking for forgiveness shows that he is remorseful and this is a good thing. Saying he forgives himself is rather weird, and he should not demand for forgiveness. If he means it and asks for forgiveness, it is much better.
2007-04-16 05:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by Cleopatra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a passive aggressive abuser, control freak, a complete moron and jerk. insensitive, rude, inconsiderate, disrespectful, uncaring, and almost every other bad thing you could want in a person...um,loser
no wonder you like him..
sorry?
HA! sure if you're a complete idiot..
sorry, ....you had to hear it that way bc you are evidently blind and deaf to this ASSh***!
RUN as fast and as far as you can from this ........thing
2007-04-16 05:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a toxic friend. Let him go. Sometimes life is hard enough without your friends hurting you. If you have many other friends, you don't need him.
2007-04-16 12:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by mntnck 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's just lonely bcause he have no friends except you. ignore him and hang out with other friends. let him suffer a little longer before you forgive him
2007-04-16 05:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mirachi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in ur case just tell him to go to hell he doest deserve ur friendship anywhere by walking away u showing him that u much better than him he doesnt deserve u.u can do this there are so many ppl out there waiting for ur friendship stop wasting it on someone whose to stupid to be stupid next time he calls tell him whats on ur mind that is to get off...
2007-04-16 05:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by zee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋