I haven't done any thing wrong in about two years between us all except I didn't like one of my friends ex-boyfriends, big deal right. well lately they don't invite me to their parties because I don't drink, so is their excuse for not inviting me.
One of my friends, Lisa, and I graduated last year and the other Kim, graduates this year. Obviously communication is going to be tough but we've managed. until now. But when they say that their lives are horrible..I have no room talk *according to them it seems*. Thing is I'm ALWAYS supporting them and they never take the time to listen to my problems. I know that sounds needy, but when you've gone through something semi-tragic that's what friends are supposed to do right?
So I have NO idea how to confront them about all this because every time I have a problem they come up with one of their own that's worse.
2007-04-15 19:40:57 · 14 answers · asked by Jaroo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get some new friends... and try to focus on what's important in life. There are 6.5 billion people on this planet. Surely that's enough to choose your friends from.
2007-04-16 01:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry they sound more like a clique at school than adults. It really makes me mad when people treat their friends like this. I had some "friends" at school who were similar and they destroyed my self esteem and made me feel that it was always about them and I was not worthy of their attention or support. I guess you are also the "nicest" amongst your friends. Now u have left university, I would suggest never contacting them again. I feel reallt bad for you. They really are not going to change and hard as it may be if you realize that now then you will save yourself heaps of emotional heartache and worry over whether or not ur "good" enough for them, funny enough (seeing as u dont drink they obviously think u dont have a sense of humour), sympathetic enough, supportive enough, witty enough, fashionable enough.
They have given you a massuve signal by not inviting you to their parties and the excuse u dont drink is not a genuine one and I think you know that. Ditch them sorry but these are not women just bitchy little girls who never grew up. Make different friends and dont follow them around like an over friendly dog or u might find out the hard way. It sounds like they are worthless friends who take far far more than they ever give back, and have now made a shallow little decision about you behind ur back, --probably for something you said or wore months ago that u cant even remember. Why cant u make friends who are better to you?
The fact that you said that "u havent done anything wrong in 2 yrs" hints at the fact that ur friends keep a record of right and wrongs. Another reason to ditch them (and their pettiness) . True friends work through problems and dont keep a record of right and wrongs. Thats what friendship is but I have the feeling you are used to this unbalanced and unhealthy kind of friendship-its unhealthy make some new ones!!.
2007-04-15 19:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Zinc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the thing is, girls like to tlk and generally it turns to their problems. Maybe try talking to one of them about soemthing on their own and the other might ask why u dont tlk to her, then u can bring it up and say that its hard to tlk to them cos you cant get ur feeling out without feeling like you have been pushed aside?
girls are funny sometimes. Maybe you could invite them over one night and just have a giggle, with a bottle of vino etc. then kinda bring into conversation how things arnt how they used to be, then they mught ask why, and you can then go into how u feel about the whole situation? hope this helps. good luck ! x
2007-04-15 21:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by graduated you mean from high school it's time to move on and find a new set of friends,this doesn't mean you totally forget about them but you all have outgrown the relationship you had with each other.
2007-04-15 20:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to find some new friends. These are fair-weather friends. Don;t let them use you any more. Find you some nice friends. You deserve better than that kind of treatment. Talking to a wall would be easier!!!
2007-04-15 19:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same problem,
No matter what you say its going to come out wrong and they are not going to like it. I have the same issues, a friend of mine went after not one but 2 of my x's.....then she lays all this c*ap on me about not giving up on me as a friend....I was so pi**ed.
So I would suggest you find some better friends....
2007-04-15 19:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste time on friends who just use you. Find some people on your level, drinking isn't the best way to pass you time, you can be doing funner things we people who understand that.
2007-04-15 19:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Alana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are supposed to look out for each other. Maybe you should think about mixing with other people.
2007-04-15 19:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by christineherson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite someone round and go out with them instead. that will annoy the others and see that you don't need them. they will eventually get so fed up thay will start inviting you out again then
2007-04-15 19:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by JESTER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just confront them if they are acting lousey just ditch them they are not true friends are they? find some other friends that will stick by you its the only option!
2007-04-15 21:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by ferny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋