2007-04-15 19:14:33 · 37 answers · asked by ♥Kimchi♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there are more important things than sex like your health....but if you have your health that sex is one of the things that holds the marriage together...there is also trust honesty, attitude, consideration,,,
2007-04-15 19:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by camden 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As you can see by the answers, men are much more likely to think of sex as the "glue" than women. That's one of the big problems in a marriage - the perception of the importance of physical intimacy.
Men perceive physical intimacy is a demonstration of loyalty, love, friendship, support, and respect...to name a few. As a man, I have no idea what women perceive physical intimacy to be. But, after 35 years of marriage, I do know this: women perceive physical intimacy very differently than men.
And, here's the key: unless men listen very carefully with both their head and their hearts to what their wives are telling them in words and actions, they will fail at their marriage. Listening comes from caring. And, caring comes from unconditional love and friendship.
So, if there is a "glue", that's what it is....not sex.
But, if women were really smart about all of this, they would be very clear about what is important to them BEFORE marriage. All the flirting, revealing dress, sexual emphasis, and physical intimacy before marriage only leads men to believe that women have similar (not different) attitudes about the importance of sex. They really don't understand why that seems to change after marriage and children come along. The more mature men make the transition while the less mature find what they are "missing" outside of the marriage commitment.
Please note that I am not blaming women for cheating men. Both parties need to respect each other and be honest with one another both before and after the wedding. That would make for a lot more "glue" for life.
2007-04-15 19:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband seems to think so. I think that you really need a sexual relationship in a marriage. From experience I can tell ya that if you don't have sex then the man thinks that you don't find him attractive anymore and may go other places to find that kind of attention. he may not sleep around but he will find someone to flirt with enough. the advice i give you is to do it at least once a week. be spontaneous. flirt with him. make him feel like he is still chasing you. If sex is the glue then make sure that love is the activator for that glue.
2007-04-15 19:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by jody g 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A marriage should never be based on sex, but it is an important aspect of the marriage relationship. But it should never become the glue. When it becomes the glue, the 'glue' can become cantaminated with outside sources. Such as lust and other things.
2007-04-15 20:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by JQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!! Compatibility is the glue that holds a marriage together. Without compatibility & love, sex is just sex.
2007-04-15 20:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chris W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is like a cake
Trust, love, honesty and companionship are the foundation (the actual cake portion, without this there is no where to put the rest)..
Memories and shared experiences are the frosting (it just makes the cake that much better)
Sex is the writing and sprinkles (not necessary for the cake to taste great... It does add some decoration but mostly it's just an added bonus.)
2007-04-15 20:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really think its the glue itself...for me its an additive to the glue that holds marriage together.
2007-04-16 02:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by stilettofan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No but it certainly can be sticky. Communication love and respect are certainly the most powerful components of a marriage. There are certainly plenty of sexless marriages (sometimes for medical reasons) that survive forever.
Having said that sex is an important component in certainly sexual compatibility.... in other words both your partner and you are sharing in the same ideologies is also important.
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2007-04-15 19:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by AdviceManHere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Trust between each other holds a marriage...and sex in a big way,is part of that trust. If both of you are no longer intimate, you may go to find sex elsewhere, and this starts breaking the marriage slowly by slowly.
2007-04-15 19:37:05 · answer #9 · answered by Cleopatra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sex is more like the frosting on the cake. The cake can be just fine without frosting, but it's sweeter with the right frosting, and more enjoyable.
As people age, their interest in sex dimishes. So, if it were the glue, then all those cute older couples would be failing apart..and they don't.
2007-04-15 23:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if that were true my marriage would have fallen apart long ago since there's almost no "glue" holding it together ( health issues) ,commitment,love and a desire to do what is right is what keeps us going.
2007-04-15 19:48:03 · answer #11 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋