Yep.....another failed relationship?

Question

Broke up with my bf two days ago because I dont feel the "Magic" anymore. . I had run out of things to talk about with him and although I loved him very much I wanted that spark back(I had been trying for some time).

He is totally devastated and I want to make him feel better, in the past he has been diagnosed with severe depression and while we have been together he got alot better..

The other night he txt me and said he has never felt so low in all his life....what can I do to stop him hurting?

Have I made the right decision?

Loving someone is't the same as being in love..

Answer 1

I have also suffered severe depression and manic-depression
what I've learned is that it's crap for someone who has it to manipulate a person to stay with them because of their over sensitivity
I would never do that to anyone
the road to recovery, the 'journey' I call it, begins with him realizing that he must do soul searching to discover himself, and that nothing on the outside will ever give you true happiness, for if it did, we would be up and down as fast as the weather changes
He needs to look for recovery programs, many which were developed by those who suffer mental health issues
hope this helps you
remember, it isn't your responsibility for what his happiness or feelings are, it's up to him
take care
email me if you want to discuss it more

Answer 2

After a certain amount of time the spark / magic usually wears off, that is just the thing that brings you together in the beginning you have to work to stay together for any amount of time. Life gets in the way. You should try & make things work if you still love someone. I really don't know what you should do, if you still want to be with him & love him you have not made the right decision. If you don't want to be with him, you shouldn't try to ease his pain, this will make him think there is hope. You need to make sure his friends & family know what has happened so they can be there for him he will need lots of support, from his friends & family.I hope you figure out what you want to do before it's too late. Good Luck!!

Answer 3

Last year in July. We got together in May and were arguing non-stop, so I dumped him because I couldn't stand the constant fighting. He acted like a d*ck back then, so that's another reason why I dumped him. I felt like he didn't appreciate me. Anyway, I left him alone for some time, made him think that I didn't care anymore (but I did, I just didn't give in and tell him because I was the one always running around after him) and then a couple of weeks later I guess he realised how serious I was (I said I didn't wanna talk to him again) so he apologized for everything that he had done. Like a week after that we got back together and we have been together since, lol. He has been a changed person since. We rarely argue, and he's a lot more sensitive. The break-up did our a relationship a world of good. Venus was transiting my 12th house. It was in Cancer, so it may have been square my Sun at the time. Could've been squaring his Sun too. He's a Aries Sun and Venus. I'm a Libra Sun and Virgo Venus. I have Venus conjunct Moon Venus trine Neptune Venus trine Uranus Venus sextile Pluto

Answer 4

Hi you have made the right decision you have to think about yourself and dont go back with him just because you feel bad that is not fair on him or you, he will get over it and he needs to not use his depression to make you feel guilty that is not the way to go on with a relationship , give him some time be there for him but as a friend only dont give him any false hope that you might get back together and things will get better time will heal

Answer 5

There are times when I feel that same exact way with my baby daddy even though we don't do all the things we used to do we managed to stay together for quite some time and there are so many ways to try and spark your relationship back up say for instincts do something together that neither one of you have done before and then share the experience with each other and see how that go.

Answer 6

you seem to say that you break up with someone when you fail to have "the spark" in the relationship. a spark is just that, a fleeting thing that leads to a burning fire. sparks aren't meant to last, but you just need to keep building a fire. did you try to talk to him, or did you just break up without him knowing why until the last moment? everyone runs out of things to talk about. did you try to have new experiences together, or apart?

anyway, now all you can do it be a friend. talk to him, and tell him to talk to someone, maybe professionally.

Answer 7

O.O No you still loved him!!! You don't just give up like that when you love someone. You could have figured out something to spice things up! :( Poor guy..... Idon't know what you could do to help..... :/ I don't know if it would hurt worse for someone I still loved to stick around knowing they don't want me or if they just plain left. But since he is texting you don't leave him that will make things worse. hmmm I really don't know how to help him though :S

Answer 8

My advice for you is that you should never continue a relationship you're not happy with. But what you can do is continue to be his friend. Help him, talk to him, be an open ear to him. Comfort him, but never fake a relationship just to avoid pain. That would not be fair to him, or yourself. Good luck :)

Answer 9

let him know that just because your not dating anymore that not everything has to change. let him know that your still going to be there for him anytime, you want to stay close, hang out and that you really havnt lost anything but simply gained a chance to improve your friendship. do your best to show him the positive points of the situation.

Answer 10

Sometimes you have to please yourself other than others. I mean you did what you had to, I know your feeling guilty but you cant build something off guilt that's just it. I think you should leave him alone for 2 weeks he needs a break and so do you he'll get over it trust me. He has to know you weren't his enchanted love and he'll find someone who is.