My fiancee doesn't want any child of his circumsized, I totally disagree. Am I right?

Question

No my fiancee is not Jewish. I am trying to convince him that our son will need to be circumsized. He thinks there is no need for it.

Answer 1

you are correct. he is wrong.

Answer 2

I asked my doctor this exact same question. He said there is no medical reason for circumcision. We circumsize here in the US simply for cultural reasons and nothing else. Yes, there's the "hygiene" issue. But if you teach someone how to clean themselves, it is no longer a big deal.

So...to answer your question...no you are not right. Why do you think there is a need for your son to be circumcised? Here's my thoughts on it - my husband is the one with a penis, not me. Therefore, he gets to make all penis related decisions. It just so happens that for us it's the other way around (I don't want it, he does).

Answer 3

There really isn't a need for it. Circumcision is aesthetic, mostly. A male should only be circumcised when there is a medical NECESSITY, and not a moment before. Really the majority of the world is not circumcised, only the USA has the mentality that all male children must be cut up.

And about the first poster saying to do it anyway. I would hope that you have more sense than that. To have a medical procedure preformed on you child w/o the consent of the father is underhanded and manipulative. I know your a better person than that.

Answer 4

I have a lil boy and I had him circumsized and I was there to see the whole procedure. It was quick and he'll never remember the experience. I've heard of a few negatives on being uncircumsized but have yet to hear anything negative on being circumsized. I know that having it done later in their adult life is VERY PAINFUL.
It's a choice that we as parents have to make and eaither way I dont know of a man out there who's cicumsized and would prefer he wasn't.
We came to our decision because we felt that if his dad was he should be too!! I hope i helped and best of luck!!!!!!!

Answer 5

well if your fiancee was jewish I think he would be on your side.

I don't see why you would want him to be circumsized. The advantages are very minimal (as in possible complications for easier bathing and it not looking as good when flacid, but come on the penis never was a pretty thing).

Your fiancee is coming from a male viewpoint and well circumsized provides more pleasure for atleast the male.

Answer 6

I happen to agree with your Fiancee on this one. In day and age the practice of performing a 'circumcision' as a standard procedure is no longer advised by doctors, unless it is deemed 'medically' necessary. I believe in my local state of Victoria 95% of boys these days are not being 'circumsized'. He went on to say, that for only very religious people do doctors reluctantly agree to doing this procedure.

Medically there is nothing wrong with a baby's penis at birth.

I have 3 boys (24,21 & 15). When they were born, only one person suggested circumcision - and that was my mother. It wasn't a welcome suggestion. Why should I choose circumcision without adequate reasons to do so? Just because my parent's generation circumsised does not mean that ours does. We have come along way over the years in our decision making for our children, and they are the ones to benefit.

I believe this is a mostly unecessary procedure. In cases where it is a medical requirement then so be it. Just because the procedure is available does not mean it should be carried out on those who have no voice in the matter. They used to whip tonsils out at the drop of a hat too, its no longer done unless its medically required due to the risks involved, same as circumcision. All medical procedures have risks. Iits very important to realise that our children are gifts to us, to be looked after and loved, and shown the way in life by us. The removal of a piece of skin isn't going to make a difference to who our children grow to be - we will make that difference!


Please ask yourself for what reasons you want your son circumsized. I would be VERY interested to hear your comments on why Your Son "needs" to be curcumcised.

God Bless,

Sharon.

Answer 7

yes you are right.
i wasn't circumcised until 23 (altho not medically nessesary) altho that depends on the doctor you talk to on what meets medically nessessary requirments.
having had sex before and after alot. it is ALOT better for myself at least circumcised. there is no lose in sensation. actually feel more. IT IS CLEANER. PULLING A FORESKIN BACK 2 OR 3 TIMES A DAY TO WASH WILL NEVER BE AS CLEAN AS EXPOSED 24/7.
and, well. the people that say it is mutilation. most people agree it looks better. how can something that looks better and has little to no negative side affects be a mutilation

Answer 8

There is no right or wrong answer to this question. You and your fiance are going to have to discuss the reasons behind your opinions and try to find a common ground. Perhaps you could speak to the doctor to go over the benefits and drawbacks to both choices. That might help the two of you to come to a decision.

Answer 9

you need to get all the pros and cons together of uncircumsized vs circumsized.. and then dont be so closed minded.. im expecting twins in july one boy and girl and werenot circumsizing him .. its a decision that should be made jointly at the childs best interest that you feel .. not just cause you wanna say .. that your right .. circumsizing him doesnt make it right neither does uncircumsizing.. good luck..

Answer 10

In my opinion..there may be a preference as to what may seem more attractiive, however, as maturity is reached, size will be the more important issue. If you wait until he is 21, and let him decide at that time, he will most likely be satisfied being un-circumsized.

Answer 11

There is no need for it if the boy is taught to keep his stuff very clean. I have had uncircumcised boyfriends and it was never a problem at all.