My husband is paying support for his other child he tried to get a reduction because we have 5 yr old?

Question

andalso a 2 month old the judge would not give him a reduction can anyone offer advice on what he should do!

my husband takes care of his children but the other child is not missing anything the mother isonly using the support to get back at him she is uses her as a paycheck anything etra she needs we supply but what about his other kids if the court is trying to make it where he basically signs his check over to her what about our children do they not desrve a good life as well

also she is not the oldest child and the mother and him were never together it was a mistake that vwas made the other child is the middle child trhe oldest and youngest are mine and they should not have to be reduced to hot dogs so she can get steak!

Answer 1

Pay his child support and stop having more children. Harsh, I know, but there it is….

The bottom line is he and you knew he had this child support obligation BEFORE you had more children. His child is not going to be forced to suffer (via a reduction in support) because of Dad’s poor choices (having more kids than he can afford).


EDITED TO ADD THIS AFTER YOU ADDED ‘ADDITIONAL DETAILS’

Your additional details don’t change a darn thing. This child has a RIGHT to receive support from his/her biological father, your husband has an OBLIGATION to support his child, and the amount of support he pays is determined by the child support guidelines (they are not forcing your husband to pay more than they would require another person to pay). Your hubby should have been more concerned about your other children before he CHOSE to have sex with another woman. Unless he’s paying *thousands* of dollars a month in child support, I sincerely doubt this child is eating steak 7 days a week (and you know that!). And every time you’re eating hot dogs, you can thank your husband for that, because it is a direct result of his choices. Learn to deal with it, because you’ll be dealing with it until the child becomes an adult.

Answer 2

Well.. I think he should take up the responsibilities, after all they are his child.. He cannot excape from the responsibilities and he needs to accept it.

Very often is based on justification. How do you justify to the judge that you should pay any lesser than you used to?. In fact the judge may feel that you should pay more as when a child grows they need more support.

Knowing that financially he is limited, he should be prudent in his spending and also NOT to have too many kids that both of you cannot support.

There is really no answer to that, however you can at best try to justify by percentage alllocation and itermise the expenditure versus how much he earns... This is quite tough, and if the judge feels that it is justifiable he may be lenient. Not to mentioned that the former EX-W will disagree for sure...

take care...

Answer 3

Sorry but i think he needs to be paying for support like he has been for his other child the mother of the child is trying to support her baby too and if she is not remarried then she is trying to support a child alone and that is extremely hard these days if it is truly causing a damper on your financial situation the only thing you could probably do at this point since you already talked to the judge is to talk to the mother of the child and see if there is anything you can work out together and then have it changed with the court system -good luck!

Answer 4

So you have a 5 year old and a 2 month old...so what? In a divorce the children of the first marriage come first. That's the LAW...so stop blaming his first wife. YOU chose to marry a man who had children from a previous marriage/relationship. If you didn't want to be where you are now then you shouldn't have CHOSEN to become involved with him in the first place. I suggest YOU get out and get a job and help support YOUR children rather than blaming his ex wife for ensureing the financial support of HER children.

Answer 5

I'm assuming he had the other child first I'm sorry but i don't see the problem here,are you saying he should take money away from his first child so he can give it to the kids he has by you,I don't see where that would be fair to the first who by the way belonged to him before you came into the picture. You knew his situation before you two started to have kids
you are the one who is really putting a strain on his money by having kids you knew up front he could not afford.You wanted the kids so now you should help pay for them by getting a job.

Answer 6

I'm sorry that it is taking a lot of money for child support and it is making it difficult for you BUT he had his other child before you married him and decided to have 2 more children. I don't think it is fair to the other child to have to do without because of decisions your husband has made. I am a believer in Child support. I really have no suggestions, unless it is for him to get a second job or you get a job.

Answer 7

He needs to do whatever it takes to continue to support ALL of his children. If he went in front of a Judge this fact was obviously put into consideration. I do wish you and your family the best but his other child should not have to suffer because he has two more children now.

Answer 8

How very very selfish of you! What makes you and your child more important than your husband's first child? Who are you to decide what that child should get. You better change your attitude or that child will grow to hate you and your 2 children (who by the way, are siblings to your 2).

Answer 9

I have been there, years ago, child support only goes up. Prepare your self to be realistic and get a part time job..You can get on the wick program( check social services) and check into food stamps. I wish you well but please remember to love the other kids of your husband, mine are raised and I wish I had really included my step kids more,cause I found out I like them! You can love them,its true.

Answer 10

Think if you were in the mothers shoes. It is not a pay check for her, unless she is a loser. He has to provide for all of his children equally maybe the two of you should have discussed your financial situation before you had children of your own. You really need to look at it from a different point of view.