I am at a total lose and do not know what to do: I am 18 yrs. old and gay. I grew up in a Christian enviroment and I am Christian. Any act of homosexual behavior is considered a sin, and ultimately sending a person to Hell. I don't believe that... I have a gay friend and I fell awful lying and going around my other friends and family just to hang around him. What can I do?
But the ultimate problem: Both my parent are against homosexuality and they told me that if they were a parent of a gay kid they will disown him/her.
2007-04-15 16:37:35 · 17 answers · asked by the_unknown_asker 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No one wants to believe that their particular sin is really that bad. Denial is a common defense mechanism.
As a homosexual, why do you feel the need to announce your sexual proclivity to anyone? There is no need to tell anyone what kind of sex you like to have.
As a Christian, committing any sin is akin to committing them all, but we can be forgiven if we repent.
As for your parents, I suspect that they must already suspect that you may have leanings or tendencies toward homosexuality, so they are hoping to curb it by their statements.
There are many things that can disappoint a parent, but none that can make them stop loving you, especially if they are Christian.
We all have our crosses to bear and we all struggle with sin, especially lust and selfishness.
2007-04-15 16:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by danny_boy_jones 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a gay person is not a choice, it is biological. Many of the gay couples I know happened to come from some very provincial backgrounds.
Ultimately, their parents and family grew to love and respect them for who they are rather than their sexual preference. Many left their small communities at the earliest possible opportunity.
Larger cities on the West coast and North can be more accepting of different sexual preferences. In fact, you may be the majority if you ever choose to live in San Franciso or parts of Seattle. You will need to decide when or even if you will come out of the closet with your parents and family.
Prejudice exists and can be very damaging/dangerous thing. I'd find a good, open-minded counselor who you can trust. I feel very sad that you must go though your life concealing this.
Good luck and may you have a good life.
2007-04-15 16:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Skeptic 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If i was you i would just tell people and open up about it and if your parents disowns you then i hate to say this but they love you as much as they say they do they should just be happy that you have someone and that you are in love.Just remember one thing,god loves all his children no matter if they are straight or gay.I have always told my kids that if they want to be gay i will love no matter what. Being gay is just like being in a relationship with a guy and a girl.
2007-04-15 16:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by happy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents aren't very Christian then, are they.
You're 18 years old and you have every right to choose your own friends without requiring Mummy's and Daddy's approval.
Until you are financially independent from your parents, don't bother telling them you're gay.
When the time comes for your parents to know about you, it will likely be a really bad situation, but MOST parents won't end up disowning their children as they may have previously stated. Some parents will discard their gay kids, but hopefully yours will be sensible.
As for your faith, you CAN be a Christian and be gay and don't let anyone tell you differently. They are speaking out of ignorance and hatred and such things are contrary to the word of God.
2007-04-15 16:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you really want them to know and to deal with it, remember to have a safety net, because if you make your jump and miss the target, it will be a long way down. I come from a Chinese family in Malaysia. My parents know I'm gay, but they're in denial, so they told me to tell them what they want to hear, and they'll let it go. So right now, I'm their 'straight son'. They'd rather live in their own cocoon of lies than to face the truth. I don't know about your culture, maybe you should just let them live their lie. It's not lying if they force you to lie. The truth is what they want it to be.
2007-04-15 18:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by renaudldw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 06:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by pape 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obey your parents,the bible orders.Read also Leviticus 18:22.You can also read the book of Isaiah:5:13-14.These two books in the old testament will surely give you guidance.To be lost is a bad thing and being gay is sinful.
2007-04-15 16:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by mukwathagicu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, remember that you may love your parents, but they do NOT own you. It is your life to do with as you see fit. Are you going to live the rest of it trying to keep your parents happy?
If they disown you, then so be it. Just let them know you love them and tell them that the door is always open when they get over their bigoted attitude.
2007-04-15 17:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then i guess you would have no Family but your
Gay Friends then. If your parents would do that then they do not know what TRUE LOVE is. Love is UNCONDITIONAL & it doesn't matter what lifesstyle you live. You are still their son & that they connot DISOWN it's on the Birthcertificate.
2007-04-16 06:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by bro_boss_citified_bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel really bad for you it must be very difficult having to hide who you truly are.
Sometimes we have to just follow our hearts and hope that the people we love wil come to terms with the way we live our lives.
My parents arent happy that i am with someone from a different religon, but i have to live my life the way i choose to. not how others want me to, and so do you.
God gave us free will for a reason, your parents cant live for you x
2007-04-15 17:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋