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tim does not mind spending $800 on toys for his car or $400 on concert tickets for his son. but when it comes to doing something with me(ex vaction) we allways have to go as cheap as possible and he complains how much this is costing him.even eating out is a big deal on valintines day we went dutch.

2007-04-15 16:36:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

we have been engaged for 2yrs and he has allways been this way with me.i also know he was not like this with his other gfs so why me?I will also say i allways pay my own way 50/50 so its not like i expect him to pay my way.

2007-04-15 16:38:18 · update #1

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I wouldn't marry him...he obviously doesn't think that much of you or the relationship...People tend to invest their money in what matters to them most...

2007-04-15 16:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by PRETTY N PINK 2 · 0 0

Sorry but it seems that he is more interested in what he wants. It is hard to change someone like this. I was married to a man that thought he was #1. I hate to say this but you better think long and hard about getting into a marriage with this man. Weigh the good things about this man against the bad things such as this and ask yourself if you are willing to live like this or do you deserve better. My guess is that you will eventually become unhappy within a marriage like this and it will be harder to get out of. You are already having feelings of doubt ... so listen to them. Please think this through before jumping into marriage. You may be glad one day for reconsidering marriage to this guy. But only you can make the ultimate decision no matter what advice you are given.

2007-04-15 16:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by susie 4 · 0 0

When you find someone you want to be with the rest of your life, there is no more "my money, your money." In a normal relationship, it should become "our money."

My husband and I share a bank account and it doesn't matter who makes more or who works harder. We are both equals. Even before we married, we kinda just knew that we were going to be together the rest of our lives, so we didn't care who paid for what because we knew eventually, we would be sharing a bank account.

It sounds like he's not the one for you.

2007-04-15 16:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Brianna's Mommy 4 · 0 0

I think that you should discuss your concerns with him. This problem should be resolved before you get married or it will continue.

Maybe he is looking at you as a business decision and feeling that it will cost him x amount of dollars and instead should look at the picture in totality especially the feelings that you have for one another.

2007-04-15 16:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0 0

Honey, you have trained him. You went DUTCH on Valentine's Day??? Honey, you are number 16 on his list, not number one. If you marry him you'll have a lifetime of heartache. If you think it's bad now, wait til he thinks he "owns" you.

Crack him out of this behavior or it'll get much worse.

2007-04-15 16:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0 0

if he wasnt like that with the other girlfriends then he obvously doesnt watn u or something . dump him

2007-04-15 17:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by lady26 5 · 0 0

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