Sometimes I feel like I want a divorce but I love my husband very much. He has no communication skills, he just walks away when we begin to fight and we are not even yelling. Sometimes I think we are 2 way different people and I just don't know sometimes?
2007-04-15 16:04:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, take him as he is....he is just like my husband.
My husband is a quiet person and very deep while I am a chatterbox. He always listening and I am always talking.
So you see, we are 2 different people but we make it going....
Learn to give and take....His weakness to you could be his strongest asset.....
2007-04-15 16:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say that your husband is in part doing a good thing when he walks away from a fight, probably he knows that it is better to walk away before the fight turns really ugly and who knows what could happens. Anyway....having said that I think that the #1 reason for divorces these days are "Money" the struggle for it , it's proved to be the mayor problem that affects couples now these days. #2 I would say monotony, people get bored easily and we have to learn how to keep the flame on. #3 communication, sometimes both partners work full time, focusing on their own careers,etc and when you realize you both have separate lives without even have time to talk. Don't give up on your marriage, tell to your hubby what's bothering you and if you feel there is the need to get a counselor involved ..do it, but fight for what you want.
2007-04-15 23:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing, thinking of getting a divorce...sometimes the main reason for a divorce in my opinion is the communication and the spark...certain men feel that once they get married that the romance and the passion is done, which is not...communication is lost when it comes down to what we feel and sometimes we don't know how to tell the person how u really feel without getting them hurt...u really have to search deep down in your heart and see if you still love him, can you see yourself without him in the future...is this vision of seeing yourself without him is so vivid and you know its certain then you may just love him as a friend, but you're not in love with him...thats how I feel for my husband, I love him as a friend and I would always be there for him, but to be in love with him has died along with every other negative thing that has happened between us...you have to see what you really want and what you think its best...good luck and I hope to god you can fix it.
2007-04-15 23:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by indiekajol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People divorce (in my opinion), because they don't want to or don't know how to have the patience to persevere through tough times. We all feel "lovey-dovey" when life is good, but want to run when there's too many challenges. Men are different than women. Sounds like he may have to learn how have healthy and fair conflicts. You'll have to have a lot of patience with him and find out how to encourage him to talk and be honest. He may just need space for awhile. But there will be no resolution without the two of you talking it out.
2007-04-15 23:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by Elle M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People divorce over lies, cheating, money and even addictions. You need to sat down and really talk because thats important in a relationship. if you fight and there's no screaming then that could be a good thing because screaming doesn't solve anything. I wish you all the best of luck and hope it all works out.
2007-04-15 23:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tracey Fahnestock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that your marriage is in trouble ask your hubby to sit and visit, then tell your husband just how you are feeling, but make sure that what you have to say is the main subject dont just nag at him because that is when they tend to walk. If you dont think this will work write your feeling in a note and give this to him and maybe he will feel that this is worth talking things out with you. I hope whatever you choose to do works for you, I will pray for you, ask god for guidance in what you are to do.
2007-04-15 23:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by sla571963 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay with a husband who has no communication skills? Not being able to communicate with one another is one of the main reasons people divorce. Leave your husband and marry a rock - it can't communicate either.
2007-04-15 23:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by mimi s 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Everyone has their own reasons for divorce. Both marriage and divorce today are taken too lightly. On days when you think you may be considering divorce for whatever reason.........Consider the vows you took on your wedding day.
2007-04-15 23:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're already talking divorce???
It could be that your DH doesn't like conflict, so he buries it deep inside. Has he always been like that?
Have you tried marital counselling?? If he won't go, then go yourself.
2007-04-15 23:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by sopapilla1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make your married life successful, close all back doors, as life moves forward not to backwards
2007-04-16 01:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋