my ex left me for another woman 10 months ago, his best friend started to contact me through the phone a couple of times then he asked me out for lunch it felt very nice, then we after that we went dancing adn he started hugging me and kissing me that felt very nice, the thing is that they work together and I'm afraid he is telling all of this to my ex I already asked if he did but he said no what should I do?
2007-04-15 15:58:02 · 15 answers · asked by cherry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes.
2007-04-15 16:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by trn88@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face this one head on. YOU tell the ex. Just call him, tell him you and his friend have grown close, and you just wanted him to know so there wouldn't be any awkwardness. And then also tell the friend that you had that conversation. If it's really over between you and the ex, this shouldn't be a big deal for anyone. Hopefully he's not bad-mouthing you in any way to the friend (and make sure you're not bad-mouthing HIM, either.) Just keep your relationship with the ex totally separate from your new relationship, and give the new guy the space to let him keep HIS relationship with your ex a totally separate thing as well.
2007-04-15 23:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if the same happened to you?
That is, some guy who you were dating but dumped
started dating YOUR best friend?
What goes around, comes around. All's fair in
love and war, etc ... but politeness counts.
What does your Ex say? If he's OK with it, then there's
no problem.
Friendships tend to last longer than most
amorous relationships - it would be a shame to
kill a long term relationship for a couple of dates.
2007-04-15 23:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your ex left you for another woman and you have to ask this question? Who the heck cares what he thinks or what it does to their friendship! I would screw his friend on his desk at work right in front of the ex.
2007-04-15 23:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by mimi s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said you CAN"T go out with the guy! Go for it! Who's stopping you? You ex-boyfriend is your EX and ONLY YOUR EX. Move on and go with his friend. Even if this makes your ex jealous, who cares? You have got to show him that you moved on. If you really like his friend, then just go out with him. What have you got to lose? The worst thing that can happpen, is that you and his friend will brake up. Even if that happens, you move on from that too.
2007-04-15 23:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by ivory_plr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... I would stay away from that whole situation. You need to remove yourself from your x and all of his friends. Chances are it's getting back to him, not that you care if he finds out but I wouldn't want anything to do with any part of him ever again, especially since he left you for another chic!
2007-04-15 23:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't but It depends on you. If you don't feel good about it then don't do it.I personally wouldn't because I try to avoid anything that could cause drama.Its like an unspoken rule I guess. Best Wishes!!
2007-04-15 23:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by goodgirl5567 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might cause a strain in their relationship, but I doubt your care about the feelings of your ex now.
Go for it.
2007-04-15 23:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by Vegan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not,don't forget you can also tell some uncomplimentary tales.Don't worry it's all part of lifes little mysteries.Go for it.Have fun and enjoy
2007-04-15 23:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to kill there friendship.. Men have this bros before hoes thing you might want to watch out for... if you dont have kids you should be ok, and if you do you might want to think about it.. And please make sure you are not doing this to get back at your ex... good luck
2007-04-15 23:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that isn't a good idea they (your ex, and his friend) could be trying to play for a fool. not a good idea that could cause a lot of drama.
2007-04-15 23:04:41 · answer #11 · answered by yummi600 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋