Do think divorce damages childrens or not?

Answer 1

it damages them much more than you could ever imagine.

Answer 2

Yes and no.

Yes, if it is not handled "properly." Young children tend to think that they are the ones to blame when parents split up and think, "If I hadn't been bad, then maybe Mommy & Daddy would still be together." Plus, oftentimes, parents will "bad-mouth" each other to the children and then the children feel like they have to "choose" one over the other (I had this happen to me). Children grow to resent their parents for putting them through this and can act out in terrible ways (either through self-mutilation and/or hurting others).

Sometimes divorce is the best thing, though. Sometimes, parents cannot live together any longer. If a child is loved thoroughly by both parents, with neither parent "bad-mouthing" the other and still presenting a "united front" on issues (rather than going behind each other's back and doing things the other parent does not want), despite being separate, then it could be a good thing.

Divorce is never easy. I admit, I'd rather be from a "broken home" than from one where verbal, physical and mental abuse is rampant. Parents should do what is best for each other, but don't make the kids pay for it as well.

Answer 3

It certainly can. It really depends on how the two divorcing spouses handle it, though. IF they can both remain friends to the point of having a good working relationship where the kids are concerned. IF they both realize that the child needs both parents, even if the two parents don't need each other. IF they present a united Parental Front where discipline is concerned. IF they can refrain from dragging the kids into their issues. or saying bad things to the kids about the other parent. IF they can divorce MATURELY, the kids will be OK.
Sometimes a kid can be damaged more by parents NOT divorcing. If there is constant stress, arguments and tension in the household, it could be worse for them. Kids thrive in a happy loving atmosphere, even if that happens in two different households.

Answer 4

Sure it causes damage on children, but it also depends on how well or bad it ends, if parents leave behind their selfishness and focus on the well being of their children they can make sure their kids don't suffer the consequences of the divorce, and even though the kids don't have both parents living under the same roof they still can feel the love and attention of both parents. But usually divorces are painful for everybody and parents can't see anything above their pain and anger and forget about the kids....and that's why kids are the ones suffering the terrible consequences of a divorce.

Answer 5

The honest answer is yes it does do more damage than people think. Even if they are very young still, the memory will always be with them. I know, cause when I was three years old, my parents sperated.
And sometimes, the children involved feels like it's their fault it happened. You need to sit them down and try to explain to them, that what happened to mommy and daddy isn't their fault.
This happens to many of married couples. It also intervere's with the kids school work. They have a hard time getting theit mind on school work. They are only thinking about their parents being no longr together.
And also, when a new person comes into theit lives, they have a hard time dealing with this too. They think their other parent is being re-placed with someone they don't know. So, try to see their side and their feelings.
They won't forget, but if you give them the love, understanding they need, it will be a little more easier for them to handle. I hope this helps answers your question. God bless and help you make the right choices.

Answer 6

Children are resilient. I feel that staying together for the sake of the children is more damaging than getting a divorce. As long as the parents sit the children down together and explain even though they are getting a divorce it isn't the fault of the children and reassure them they are loved. Parents that divorce and use their children as leverage or pawns are disgusting in my opinion. The parents should make every effort to be on friendly terms and include the other parent in the child/children's lives.

Answer 7

Depends on the child and how they were living..

For example if the parents are both in the same home and fight all the time, the child would probably see it as a relief to not have to hear it. Parents apart and happy are much better.

If however the family use to be good and the child feel that it's wrong, there can be issues. All kids and divorces are different. It's hard to answer the question without knowing the people involved, and the actual situation..

Answer 8

It depends on how old the kids are and how the divorce is handled. If the children are older, they might be able to understand the reasons why their parents are divorcing but when they're young, they may not and might even blame themselves for it. So yes, divorce has the potential to damage children.

Answer 9

Yes divorce does hurt children emtionaly. The divorce rate for those kids who has went thru a divorce is at like 82 percent now. Yes there is ways to lesson the hurt but it always puts a perm scar in a childs life.

Answer 10

It doesn't have to. If it is a bitter and nasty divorce that will definitely affect the kids in a bad way. On the other hand, if it is an amicable divorce and the parents remain friends and the kids are still involved with both parents then it can turn out just fine.

Answer 11

Absolutely. I think that a divorce damages a childrens idea of a relationship and also children need to see their parents together and getting along.