Should I move to another state with my children to have support from my parents to finish my career and leave my partner of 12 yrs behind, he is currently persuing his career but we both cannot afford to do it together, I dont feel is fair since I have waited so long to retake my career and he finish school and did not like what he did and now is going for something else?
2007-04-15 15:50:14 · 7 answers · asked by Proud Mama of 2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How will you feel when he isn't there with you? If you can say you would be okay with it then do it so you can do what you want out of life.
2007-04-15 15:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you do that to your children? Why not just be a grown-up, move on from the adult romantic relationship if it's not working anymore, but honor your commitment to your children to provide them with a relaxed, fulfilling relationship with both parents? People live on their own, go to school & co-parent all of the time, without needing help from their parents. I'll bet you could do it, too.
You get a job, you take on-line courses & night courses from time to time. You miss an hour of sleep here & there, catching up on the weekends when the kids are with dad. You tough it out for a few more years until the kids are grown.
2007-04-15 23:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you had a deal and then he renegotiated it with out your consideration and now you are expected to abide by the new rules that put you further behind?
Your options:
1. Go to where you can have your career and parents help and risk losing him
2. Stay to where your partner can do what he wants and then may decide to change his mind again and you continue to risk losing yourself
3. Take the chance and allow him to do his alternate thing again while yours goes on hold yet again and then he sticks to this one and you finally get to do yours at a delayed time
those seem to be your options and now you chose.
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Truly loving yourself is choosing to be someone who uses that freedom to love you
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2007-04-15 23:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cry it isn't fair. People can only do to you what you let them. If you put your career on hold, take responsibility and stop blaming him. If your career is more important than your partner, leave to your parents and pursue it.
2007-04-15 22:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by mimi s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is going to support you and your children, do what is best for you and get the support you need. Love isn't enough, doesn't pay the bills unfortunately.
2007-04-15 22:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether the kids are his or not.
If the kids are his, than by moving away you would be making your career more important than the kids' relationship with their father.
2007-04-15 22:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by joe b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your kids come first. If it's really meant to be it will work out even over the distance. If you don't move you may grow to resent him because you didn't give your life a chance. I say move.
2007-04-15 22:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Franny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋