Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years and he is talking about proposing to me. Now, the problem is I am only a freshman in college but he is a junior so what should I do. I have already went through the "Im young and want to be free" thing and I came right back to him. I realized that he is the only one I want to be with. So please no answers like, "well you are young and your mind can change" because I already went throught that. I dont plan on getting married until I graduate but is it wrong to be engaged at this point?
2007-04-15 15:35:20 · 16 answers · asked by expecting mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't know why you feel guilty about an engagement.
i think it's great, if that is what you want to do. you certainly seem to have sensible plans for your lives, and intend to get through college before taking the big leap!
go ahead, become engaged... enjoy the fact that you've found someone you look upon as "the only one i want to be with". how wonderful.
hon, if you constantly have feelings of guilt and worry over decisions in your life, you might be suffering from some anxiety. i'm not trying to be critical, but i see you are worried over this decision and had to wonder. take care of YOU... "guilt" is for criminals, and you're certainly not one of those! in fact you sound like a good and thoughtful person... i wish you all the best.
2007-04-15 15:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other, you love each other its simple. No one can tell when the right time for marriage etc is, only time will tell. I have family that got married when they were 14, and everyone said it was stupid and it wouldn't last. They have been together for over 40 years!! And yet I know others that were together for years, married later in life and it lasted only a short time.
If you think that you are ready for the commitment, then by all means get engaged. But no one can make the decision for you.
2007-04-15 22:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by loza500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who was engaged after my freshman year of college, and married after my sophomore year, I think it is good that you plan on waiting until you graduate. I am still in school and have had to try to balance everything, and it is really hard, so being engaged at this age is fine, just be sure you take your time.
2007-04-15 23:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by berningme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone that got married at a young age. Do not rush into anything. Because in this day in age it will not work.
I am Divorced.
What you may want to do is move in together to feel one another out. Just to see if you and your man are really made for one another. take it from me you don't not want to wake up one morning and wonder why did i waste my time., and realize that you and this person is not made for me.
2007-04-15 22:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anna C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone that was married right out of high school, don't rush into marriage, if he truly loves you he will wait till you are ready. People who marry young, there marriages don' t always last, mine didn't. Now yours might, but make sure you get the wildness out of you before you make a life long commitment.
2007-04-15 22:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by Toni K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being engaged. It sounds like you intend on it being a long engagement and that will allow you time to make sure you still are meant for each other.
Good luck.
2007-04-15 23:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Jill R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already been together long enough. Get married already. Marriage is really tough, no matter when you get married, there is no "right" time. Just be committed to staying together, growing together, and making the relationship work.
2007-04-15 23:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the engagement....time will tell if the relationship is meant to be and if this is something you both want, i see no harm in it....who knows, you could be together happily for the next 60 years...
2007-04-15 22:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong because your young I'm 22 with 3 kids got married at 18 and is getting a divorce.
and you have a vary good plan to wait
2007-04-16 00:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by h_m_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read all the question on this site. If that doesn't change your mind to back off and at least not have any kids for a llllooooonnnnnggggg time, nothing will.
2007-04-15 22:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋