How do I come out?

Question

I am in Atlanta and come from a small town and I am thinking of telling my parents or maybe one of them aout my sexuality. I been strugglign for a long time and I am sick and tired of being unhappy and depressed
The thing is I do not know what to say. I am blk and I have heard comments about gay people so I want to come off not in a harsh way but in a way they would not look down on me

Answer 1

Its a process...please contact me should you wish to chat..I to am from a small town and then moved to West Hollywood..

Answer 2

Coming out to your parents or anyone for that matter is not a easy task. I never really came out to anyone. They just saw it in ways that I acted through the years. I never felt I was gay by no means because all the other gays weren't into what I was. They didn't get into make-up or women clothes, etc. By the age of 16 I realised I was transsexual! I got on estrogen. Never telling a soul and just lived my life. My mother would find my female clothes and take them but I bought more. She did everything to deter me from my chosen path. Now at the age of 42 having had my sexual reassignment surgery at 36 years old, I'm more happier than ever. I still haven't told my mother anything about it.... You have to live your life. Just don't do it at home!

Answer 3

Keep in mind no matter what you do or say you will always come upon someone who is diss you for WHATEVER reason. Short, tall, fat, thin, black, white, your religon or lack of one, there is always someone out there to put you down. It is a fact of life. That being said, they are your parents. Don't ever be afraid of your parents. If you feel you need your parents approval, well, that is the wrong reason to come out. The real reason to come out is to let your parents know that any expectations they may have from you may not be the expectations you have for yourself. Let them know that no matter what you depend upon their guidance and experience in order to help you grow. Tell them what you told us, that you are tired of living up to other peoples ideals but you still want to be the best person you are capable of being. Tell them you love them and always will, that you want to have them in your life, but you have to live your life happily. In order to do that you need to let go of all the stuff you've been struggling with and start a new chapter, that you depend upon them to be there for you because no matter what happens you will always be their child and that bond in the one thing that keeps you sane, not only during this period in your life, but that it is an always thing. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Go to the

www.hrc.org
http://www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Coming_Out


It gives information about "Coming out of the Closet."


Good luck. Also local GLBT organizations can help you.
In Atlanta that should not be a problem to find organizations that can give you great support.

Answer 5

It's hard, But go to the parent you are more close , If at all possible do it in a public place like a coffee shop or something your mom or dad might no freak out as badly due to being out in public space.

Answer 6

there's a communtiy of gay people in atlanta,look up gay services or center in the major city there. why not try to hook up with them so you'll have a friend to talk to and not feel so alone.then talking to your parent would be easier. take your time before you tell your family especially if they're church go'ers. be patient with yourself tell someone you can trust to be supportive of you

Answer 7

Do what I did. Get really drunk and call everyone you know. The next day your might feel like hammered dog sh**, but at least you'll be ready to move to the next step: Weeding out the people who cannot accept you. Life is too abundant to worry about what others think.
Love yourself. If you don't , how can you expect others to.

Answer 8

just tell them your gay or bisexualand tell just don't hide it anywhere