at first my boyfriend was very inlove with me. he almost gave me everything special..he always wants to see me..always escape his duty just for me..(no sex involved).. then we always quarrel because he was jelouse, he only wants me to be in school, home and with him nothing more. then its like i became a ******. i always give him a head ache already.. now we already our 2 yrs together.. we are already hurting each other verbally.. its like we already have a gap and our chests are like very heavy towards one another already.. then when we had a vacation.. he raped me:c he raped me 3 times and that is the first time we had sex.. i feel bad about it because i am not yet ready to have sex (i am 23 he is 26) now..its like he doesnt respect me anymore.he says he loves me but he always gets hot tempered at me easily.. i can feel that some things are changing..its just like his love for me is not that strong anymore..i want his love to come back?pls help i dont knw wat to think and do anymor
2007-04-15 15:12:11 · 18 answers · asked by mini 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You were abused and violated - he doesn't love you.
It is hard when you have been abused to not feel that you are guilty - I suggest that you find a support group to help you.
You might also want to file charges - it is a crime - I don't care if he's your boyfriend or not - he assaulted you, just as such as if he had taken a stick and beaten you.
Leave him - and NEVER go back to him - no matter what he says - he is ill and needs help, but not yours.
2007-04-15 15:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he raped you, then he doesn't love you.Leave him already! I personally, would have never stayed with my girlfriend for so long if she was like that.! Hot tempered, never letting me out of her site, A.K.A. being over controlling.! Well, any kind of controlling is bad, really... Raping me would have beyond the line! Too far beyond for us to have any chance.
He doesn't respect you if hes done all of these things to you. He doesn't love you. And although I know what changed, I don't understand what happened, that doesn't change anything. Nothing that this BOY has done to you, can be forgived. You didn't deserve any of it. But you do deserve better.
And if you do anything else involving him, it should be filing changes. He raped you, damn it! Excuse my language, but it's true. You can't hold on to the past and destroy your prescient. Not to mention, maybe not have a future...
Just get rid of him. I know it may be hard, but going through this anymore will be harder.
2007-04-15 15:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No girl deserves to be treated like that, and for him to rape you... I would file some charges against him or at the very least, leave his sorry no good excuse for a man. His anger and jealousy seem to get the best of him, a lot of people get jealous and angry but they are able to control it, he lost control of it when he decided to rape you. Things can only get worse from here, either get some serious, hard nose counseling for you two, or better off yet, leave him. Don't be afraid too.
2007-04-15 15:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by markmiller1988 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What he has done to you is wrong a coward. He overpowered you and rape you. At first he ACTED like he respected you because he wanted to get in your pants. So he doesnt feel the need to respect you anymore since he got what he wanted from you. He's a jerk. You really need to think hard and decide whether you want to continue the relationship with him or not.
2007-04-15 16:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by pretty asian 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
once was already bad enough, yet he could have badly repented. but thrice is really sick. the worst thing is, you're still together and he doesn't change a bit. if that's the case, it will only worsen coz he won't give a bit of trust and respect towards you. get your friends to beat the crap out of him. then stay out and stay away.
2007-04-15 15:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by anikichaye 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not your boyfriend he is a monster, get away from him quick and as far away as you can. He does not love you he is twisted in the head, people who love you don't treat you like that one wise word Escape and Fast. Good Luck God Bless.
2007-04-15 15:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, the first time he raped you, you should've left him. Are you sure he's not just using you for something and saying ha loves you?
I think you should break up. But that's just my opinion.
2007-04-15 15:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put him in jail! Don't let him do that to anyone else! Go some place that he cant find you and re group. You need to find someone you can talk to. I'm sorry he did this to you! Good luck.
2007-04-15 15:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by DREDAY 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortuanetly not all relationships are meant to be. you need to move on, and probably far way.
he doesnt sound like the respectful guy a woman deserves.
2007-04-15 15:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by charllie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this dude raped you and you want him still???????? no dump his @$$ and hook it up with some one else. your young you obviously have good morals. there are millions of guys out there that value that sort of thing. be a woman. dont take crap from no one and get out of there.
2007-04-15 15:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by rebel_devil2003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋