Do people think that long distance relationships work and how can you make sure that the other partner is telling you the truth and not seeing someone else? i am in one at the and i trust my man when the tells me that i am his one and only but his ex tells me different.His ex has been trying to break us apart for 6 months now and it hasn't worked.Is she just jealous? or does she just want to make his life a ling hell?
2007-04-15 15:09:37 · 9 answers · asked by happy m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You just have to trust your partner. You guys seem to have a great relationship, and I'm sure it'll go far. His ex-girlfriend sounds quite bitter and jealous; I wouldn't trust what she's saying at all. Don't let her get to you! If needbe, cut off communication with her so she can stop bothering you and fluctuating your trust level.
2007-04-15 15:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by SuperVictoria64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a long distance relationship for a year and a half and the hardest thing in the world is to trust each other 'cause you really have nothing to go on except for what they tell you. Stick with your gut. If things seem out of sorts then it's possible that they might be. Another good idea is the next time you visit him, befriend one of his friends girlfriends or something. That way you'll have an ally living near him incase he misbehaves.
2007-04-15 22:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think from what you described that his ex is jealous of the relationship and instead of going directly to him to try to win him back she is probably trying to get you to break up with him so that she can step in and act like she's the one that he should be with. Don't fall for that. You have to know your man for yourself, after being with him for a while there are things that you can notice and sense when things are going well or if something is up. Long distance relationships are difficult to maintain at times but it's not impossible, just keep the lines of communication open.
2007-04-15 22:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by BaBy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust what his ex has been saying as she's been trying to break you two up for 6months now.....but then again...you never know.
Hopefully your man is being faithful and trustworthy* make a surprise visit sometime for a weekend...you'll know for sure if he's the man he claims to be*
Communication-Trust and Honesty are the keys to a long healthy realtionship*~ without those you have nothing*~
2007-04-15 22:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have full trust in him, stay with him. But if you can't trust him 100%, it's better to break it off now rather than hurt him and yourself more in the end before it gets too serious.
A friend's experience: He went out with this one girl in Cali. They went out for 2 years and he trusted her and loved her and was going to marry her. But she was cheating on him and was now pregnant with the guy's kid so she had to tell him. She ended up breaking his heart extremely.
Moral of the story, if your not sure he's trustworthy, don't waste your time or his by holding on. It's better to break it off now rather than hurt him in the end. But if you feel that he is devoted to you........there's no harm in a chance. Personally, I would never do long distance relationship. The percentage is too high in break-ups.
2007-04-15 22:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by dr. phillian here.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's one catch all answer to this one.
You really need to determine how much you trust your partner, and then interpret anything he says in that context.
You then need to decide on the motivations of his ex, and then interpret what she says in that context...
If you're religious, you could try praying for guidance as well...
And of course, you should know that long distance relationships are tough, but very workable.
2007-04-15 22:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by v_2tbrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should trust each other. You only mention 6 months, mine is about 18 years apart, and yet I can say to the whole world that she's in love with me, and Im in love with her, despite that both of us has different partner. Its been an error once, because we fail to exercise trust, only to realize that we still in love with each others despite our situation now.
2007-04-15 22:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by dondatu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-04-15 22:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by heath e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all about what you want and how much trust you have. it can work if you both give it everything you can. one person cannot make it work by themselfs.
2007-04-15 22:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by outg426 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋