I have this close friend and well we have been sleeping together of and on for the last year and a half, and well here lately it has been at least once or twice a week in the last month. How do I know if he wants it to be more than a friendship with benefits with no strings attached? He is always wanting to do more together than we have in the past and now he is wanting to spend the night together in his semi so his wife and my husband don't know. We can make this possible cuz of course he is a trucker, and well mine works 3rd shift, so it can easily be done. He is calling me all the time and vice versa and we send a lot of text messages back and forth. He is always telling me when he is lying in bed naked, and what we could be doing together. He even kept his promise of making it back here earlier this week to be with me, instead of going home to his wife and kids, he stayed in the truck and had me stay with him for a little while before I went home. What do you all think?
2007-04-15 15:05:07 · 12 answers · asked by Toni K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Do you really want to know what other people think?
You're a homewrecker and he's a home wrecker. And there's kids involved? DESPICABLE. You should be ashamed of yourself.
2007-04-15 15:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by roomwithaview 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband. Don't you think he and your kids need to know. Also his wife and kids. You know the other people you 2 are screwing up. Sure, you need to let the kids be with dad and you need to pay child support, but you will have your new man. Hope it is worth losing everything for your little romp. He is a trucker, what how many women do you think he has on the side that you don't know about... I really hope you don't have kids.
2007-04-15 22:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by Bones 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch out because the other people that live in the same trailer park will tell your husband that a semi was parked next to your mobile home .
2007-04-15 22:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by T Bird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you two are currentlt doing is wrong. Ask him if he wants more, decide if you want more. If so, get divorced and be together the right way. If not, cut it off. If you put the same amount of energy in to your own marriage it could probably be as exciting as your fling.
2007-04-15 22:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by Franny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm NOT going to be hateful to you, as others have, but I 'm going to try to answer this question with an informed opinion.
I read your answer to another girls question (about her BF moving and she starting to like the guys friend)....so, I now don't have to ask you if you love this guy, because you implied to the other chick that you loved someone else besides your husband.
I think BOTH of you need to ask yourselves and each other some questions.
Are you certain that you feel no love for your husband?
Are you certain that what you feel for this guy is really Love, not just a thrilling conquest?
How does he feel for his wife (be truthful , now...LOL)
Has he said in no uncertain terms that he loves you , and wants to be with you?
Is he prepared to give up his life with his children for you?
How does that make you feel about him? Yourself?
Do you have children involved in this as well?
If you and he end your relationships with your spouses, will the exitement die? Will you feel like an old married couple then? How will you deal with the kids? Will you worry when he's out on the road that he's blanking some "lot-lizard"? ( I know you know what they are...LOL)
Will you begin to worry that if he cheated on his wife with you, he will cheat with someone else on you? Will he worry that when he;'s on the road, you might be blanking someone else also?
What do you stand to lose if you tell your husband about this mess?
We already know what he stands to lose.
The truth of the matter here is that you are both cheating on your spouses with someone elses cheating spouse!
Both of you will have concerns about the others cheating somewhere down the line, and I suspect it will be as I questioned...he'll worry about you when he's on the road, you'll worry about him when he's on the road. (Lets not forget that "The ROAD that brings us together, can also separate us")
Whatever your reasons for cheating on your husband....did he deserve it? (Was he bad or abusive to you, neglectful of your needs?)
What about this mans wife?
The fact is that if you want ot be together, you probably will.
I just hope that you don't lose your current husband for nothing when he finds out (will you tell him the truth?)
Children are like "glue" in a relationship....and so is sex.
What "binds" the 2 of you together?
There is really no "answer" to your question....
Only time and truth will tell.
But you both need to come clean...are you BOTH prepared to do this?
In my experience, the married man NEVER leaves his wife for his lover, unless she won't have him back ....or never knows what he did to her.
(which is probably what will happen here)
Ask him what he is prepared to do about the situation, and don't be shocked when he chooses his wife and children and secrecy over you.
2007-04-15 22:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by FrEaKoNaLeAsH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Dear Abby once answered a lady like you. You need to take the rocks out of your head and use them to fill up the holes in his.
2007-04-15 22:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by asmikeocsit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't be rude just blunt. The both of you need to take your cheatin asses and tell your husband and wife get a divorce and you two COLD HEARTS should remain as one.
Later!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-15 22:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do? You burn in hell when you die.
Have fun with those flames licking your a s s .
Hope it is worth it to spend eternity in Hell.
2007-04-15 22:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's foocked up. Why be married at all if you are going to carry on like this?
2007-04-15 22:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to file for divorce cause you are wayy in for mr friend
2007-04-15 22:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by mei_soup2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋