She moved in with her husband, 2 kids and said she needed time to get out of financial trouble. She lived for free which is fine with me, except she didnt do the dishes, take out the trash, clean house or even throw her dirty diapers in the trash. She was filthy and after a year of her screaming undisciplined children and her laziness, she managed to buy a house, new van and new appliances for her new house. Today she came over to her dads and said she thought she would drop in and do his dishes, which really means she plans to borrow more money. We left and when we came back home there were about 10 glasses washed and she left the rest. of the dirty dishes all over the counter. I think she was trying to get money, but her plan failed when her dad left with me.
She makes me want to vomit and I feel like I need to tell her save it "*****". I will take care of the dishes! Get to the point.
How can I get past this feeling of wanting to just tell her off.?
2007-04-15 14:52:36 · 2 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think that this is really a situation that you could win. If you speak out against her, it will sound like you are trying to drive a wedge between her, and her father...If he is so blind that he can not see her for what she is, then you do not want him to feel that he has to choose between the two of you...you'll only be disappointed.
On the other hand, this is obviously not something that you are comfortable with maybe you should just leave whenever she visits on another money run.
If your boyfriend really has his heart set on being a meal ticket, there is nothing that you can do to prevent it. Some people are just absolutely dedicated when it comes to self destruction, and the best that you can do is not get sucked down with them. So, just step back, and don't get drawn into anything...You don't need the drama.
2007-04-15 15:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can not compete with his child and shouldnt try however u can pull her to the side and let her know that she will not be using her father anymore
2007-04-15 22:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋