I met a guy online forever ago (like 5-6 years ago) and he was married with two kids. One time during our 5-6 years of knowing him, he siad he was stupid for waiting around to meet me but then about 2-3 months later he came back stating he missed me, blah blah blah...Now he's unhappily married and I've always told him from day one, until he does something about his marriage him and I weren't going to meet or anything else and so far it's been that way. I don't regret it at all becaue I don't want to be a homewrecker but I don't know if this guy is being honest or not. He's a little over 10 years older then me (I know older men want younger women but I'm a whale and he knows this and he still wants me). What do I do ?? Do I continue to talk to him until he does something with his wife or realize he's not going to do anything with his marriage and move on ??
2007-04-15 14:29:07 · 8 answers · asked by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No it's not even like that...Despite his baggage he's a good guy and I'm not out looking for a boyfriend let alone a husband, I just don't want his wife to think we're doing more then is there and then I'll be the homewrecker. I don't care about me and what happens with me because I'm not the one who'd suffer repercussions if we do meet, it's more his kids I'm worried about hence why I haven't met him. I'm not worried about the meeting online part, I've met a lot of people online and am still friends with to this day.
2007-04-15 14:37:16 · update #1
I'm not out to get hiim to divorce his wife in fact I've tried helping him find the words to talk to his wife to make things better....
2007-04-15 14:38:24 · update #2
i say you stop talking to him...he hasent done anything for 5 to 6 years do you think he will do something now
2007-04-15 14:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by lovemonkeys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUmmmmm.... Sounds to me like you may want to think about moving on... he's married with kids.... Its been how long now since you two have been talking? And he's still married.... if he's so unhappy, He should have done been gone.... Would you stay in a relationship if you where miserable? I wouldn't regardless of the kids.. Your kids are your kids no matter where you are... besides.. if the family life is so bad, The kids are going to pick up on it anyway.... What do you mean you are a whale? Are you saying you are a Big Beautiful Woman? Well good for you! There are lots of men out there that are attracted to women such as yourself if this is the case... Leave this dude to woller in hisown mess and go find you a man that will respect you and love you for who you are.. Don't waste another 5 - 6 years of your life when you yourself could be happy....
2007-04-15 21:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ez Widerz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most marriages that go bad don't divorce. They just stay that way until they pass. There's not much I can say I'm 20.lol. But if you mary someone that just divorce there is possible drama between the Ex wife and you. So you can talk this guy into leaving her, but she will be heartbroken and out to get you for telling him. It's better to find someone else that has no strings attached of the sort. Plus online isn't the best place. You are aware of the people that have died because of meeting people online? But as long as their proof of the person then it's alright.
2007-04-15 21:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jeremy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not waste my time. You don't ever know if someone is being honest and truthful with you or not in a forum like the internet. You really don't 'know' someone - especially if you have never met this guy. The comment you made about being a 'whale' indicates to me that you are unhappy with your size and think that since this guy knows how large you are, it's acceptable to be with him. You can have complete control over this my friend - work on you - get in shape and be healthy - get out and have some fun with people your own age. You don't want to get tied up into a situation like this. Your life and your emotional health should be more important to you. Get moving....you have a life to live.....
2007-04-15 21:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already a home wrecker - flirting around and teasing a married man on-line or not, you are interfering in someones marriage. You are a fool to be doing this at all, even more foolish to be doing it over 5 years, borderline idiot to think that he will do anything for some babe he only knows through a dang computer!! Too bad, because you deserve each other.
2007-04-15 21:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say to move on. Please don't call yourself a whale. That only shows a lack of confidence that he might be picking up on. Men who constanly complain about their marriages usually have wifes who are compaining too. He seems to be looking for an easy out, as so he can't blame it on himself. If something doesn't seem right. It usually isn't.
2007-04-15 21:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by Aggie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you choose to walk on hot coals.. you will get burned
2007-04-15 21:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by malibuer2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've somehow convinced him he can have sex with you. Nothing more, nothing less.
Get on with your life that he's not part of.
2007-04-15 21:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Pancakes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋