Don't know what to think, my brothers gonna be a teen father!?

Question

I'm 25, so this isn't about me. My 17 year old brother Andrew is going to be a father. HE'S 17!! His girlfriend found out a few months ago, but he just broke the news yesterday. I don't know what to think. This is my little brother, the "baby" of our family. He's only a junior in high school! I want to help him, but I feel like all the advice I've ever given him about girls/sex/life has just been thrown away.
I'm in a state of shock. I know my brother isn't ready for this, neither is our family or his girlfriends. And who knows? They might end up just another seperated couple with a child out of wedlock.
He's a good kid, and I just wish this wasn't happening to him.

Answer 1

If the girlfriend is a good girl, don't worry so much. Having a child matures a person. The Maternal instincts are already there so you don't have to worry about her bathing, changing, feeding the child. If she's head strong with good support from your brother, she'll blossom into a woman and give tremendous strength to your brother and their life as a family. Hopefully she wants to stay in school, he will too. If he's wanting to get a job and support the child and mother, support him but help him realize he needs to stay in school and at least finish high school. Maybe find someone in the family to help babysit so it's a possibility for them. Do NOT pressure them into marriage. Most couples are much older, more committed and still prefer to not engage. Give support, that's most important, not lecturing on what should have happened. Most people go through trying situations, some seem impossible to conquer, but their lives benefit and they mature and live better lives. Good luck to the couple, remember how much you've helped him in the past and and have the will power to keep doing it.

Answer 2

As shocking as this seems, it's not entirely uncommon. And it's definitely not what anyone was expecting. Now that you realize what exactly the situation has become, then it's important to organize in your own mind what your role is going to be. Obviously you love your bro alot, and that means that you must be at his side to help out and simply TALK whenever he needs it or whatever. You represent a different perspective that your parents simply wouldn't understand. If you can remain "in the wings", and willing to lend a hand if he reaches for it, this will facilitate what's happening, no matter the outcome. It's true, they may become another separated couple with a child out of wedlock, but maybe they WILL stay together. Either way, the two are still human and need to be held close and reminded that they're not alone. If there is a big family support- there is that much less of a chance the baby will grow up unloved... which is the least anyone deserves, is it not? Good luck, my friend, and remember the amount of influence and responsibility you possess.

Answer 3

I know how you feel, the exact same thing has happened to me except I am 17 and my brother is now 16. He is also the baby of the family and found out his girlfriend at the time was pregnant at age 14. I tried to give my brother advice too, but one thing led to another and we all know how that ends. Regardless your brother is going to need you (especially) and your family more than ever if he is expecting to raise a child. But he himself has to be told that things in his life are going to change with this child. He doesn't need to be scared more than he already is but the point needs to get across. My brother practically had it easy raising his son because he went to school until 3, went to football, basketball, baseball, track or whatever else practice and normally didn't make it home until 10:30 (because after practice he showered and we straight to work) when our grandmother had put him to sleep at about 7 or 8. But he did get a job to make sure he had everything he needed, and didn't go out on weekends for about a year and a half to make up for time with his son. In my opinion, as long as your brother makes an attempt to be the best father to the child he can be, then that's all you can really ask of him.

Good Luck and God Bless!!

Answer 4

Support him, and I don't mean by money. Maybe let him know that you're there for him. Think how he must feel right now. Probably has some regrets, and feels like he just let everyone down. Let him know you'll be there to listen if he has fears or just wants to talk. Help him to get a job to support the child. Right now he's just as concerned and worried as you are, maybe more so, since he's the one having to face reality right now. I hope I've helped some. Remember, it takes a community to raise a child. Good luck

Answer 5

It's his problem I hate to be the one to break it to you but He knew what he was doing when he did it he should have used protection and she should have been on birthcontrol. Theres a consoquence to every action he has to lay in the bed he made! If he wasnt ready for the consequence of his actions he shouldnt bhaving sex in the first place! And I was a teen mother I had my son when I was 17 and I am here to tell you I love him more than life itself and he has kept me from alot of trouble!!!! Good luck to the brother tell him next time to use protection or keep his dick in his pants or he will be paying the price for it everytime and believe me child support is a ***** for the men but great for the women taking care of there children!

Answer 6

The Girl Should Be Good Enough 2 Understand n UR Brother should take up the responsibility....

Answer 7

okay the only thing you really can do is just be there for him let him know you are there for him. And im a teen mother Im 18..its hard to have a baby but at the same time its a blessing. Tell him what he is up for let him know that everything will be okay even tho there will be some ups and downs to have a infant around. good luck to you

Answer 8

do no longer concern approximately it because of the fact it no longer your concern. i'm able to't have faith which you have the nerve to call this female loose yet positioned no blame on you brother. It takes 2 to make a sprint one so your brother is in simple terms as plenty a slut as Trisha.

Answer 9

I know you wish this was not happening but it is and it's not going to go away. Be there for him as much as you can be, love him, his girlfriend and their Baby. Respect whatever decisions he makes and give him advice when he ask for it. Treat him the way you would want to be treated if the tables were turned. God Bless You and your Family through this difficult time.

Answer 10

Well heres what you should do, support him and give him adivce if you are a parent and dont encourage sexual activity,because he will then have 2 kids on the way no abortion. If he doesnt want it put it up for adoption or give away his parental rights and if he doesnt want to pay child support if he gives up his rights thats not going to work.