About a year ago I met this guy online on vidilife.com. I was a single lady with no kids at 26yrs old. I dated around for three years until I met this guy.This guy from Chicago left me a very touching comment on the photo I posted on my profile. I thought wow what a charming man. We talked on IM along with a webcam and we clicked right away. Two weeks after getting to know each other he wanted to meet me. He went ahead and purchased a plane ticket to meet me here in Ohio. When we saw each other I thought we can be more than friends. He told me he had no kids and he has been single for a long time. He is ready to settle b/c he is 30yrs old and wants a family. If we love each other and everything was real with him, what could go wrong. I wanted to have a baby so I got pregnant two months after we met. The same day my baby was born we got married. Then I just found out he was still married but separated with five children. He said he was afraid to tell me because he didn't want to lose me
2007-04-15 14:08:52 · 6 answers · asked by ariesmegs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The man lied to you. But unless he is getting a divorce/anullment and it's well under way, then I think you should give him a second chance.
2007-04-15 14:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by someone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you 2 moved WAAAAAY to fast. Getting pregnant 2 months after meeting him and getting married 9months later? I do think you need to give the relationship a second chance b/c you have already moved to the part of having children and its only fair to the child and him to try to make things work. How selfish!
2007-04-15 14:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by D M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 01:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how did you find out about his being married? If he is not telling you the truth, you may need to break it off with him. Maybe not permanently, but at least until he can finalize the divorce with his wife and stop keeping lies from you. I understand that you love him. But, he won't respect you unless you ask him to. He doesn't know what you need honey. I mean, he doesn't even seem to know what he needs. Come on, he's stuck in two relationships...sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Or at least, how to get what he wants. He is walking all over you, you can't allow it! Because it will hurt your relationship even further in the end. You have to be confident and let him go so that he can work things out and come back to you with the commitment that you deserve. He has to make a choice about which woman he is going to be with! He may love you and maybe he is not trying to hurt you or use you. But, regardless, that is what is happening. You need to push him to be a better man...to respect you...and to respect his wife and five children! I can only imagine what his kids are going through! And does his wife know about you? Has he told her? Will her tell her? If he is planning to make a life with you, he is going to have to let her go and tell her that he no longer wants to be married. I have to tell you though, that I feel pretty sorry for you, because he is not being very considerate of you or his wife. It sounds to me like he may need some counseling or to speak to a religious advisor. Does he go to a church? Maybe he can speak to a pastor about it? If he wanted to leave his wife he would've left her though...if he wanted you, he would've left her. Don't let him get away with saying that he doesn't want to hurt thier kids, because let me tell you from experience...it will hurt worse for them to see their parents living in this half-assed state. Plus, don't you think that they would like to know that they have a half sibling out there? What he's doing is not right! I'm not telling you to leave him, if you really love him. But, you have to draw a line somewhere. You have to tell him to choose which woman he wants to spend his life with. And if it's not you, you have to be understanding and let him go! Good luck to you and God Bless! I will say a special prayer for you both tonight! I hope this advice helps you!
2007-04-15 14:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn him into police and then take him to court for emotional pain and suffering and the most child support anyone has ever gotten out of a man for one child.
2007-04-15 14:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by dreamgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you arent married
turn him in- he's a Bigamist
2007-04-15 14:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋