They said they didn't like certain people but they end up doing it with this certain person during work hrs
2007-04-15 12:33:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no forgiveness...kiss my big a$$ goodbye, oh and now you gotta pay child support to...lol
The saying is true Once a cheater always a cheater.
It is hard to break bad habits
you will be the fool if you take him back,cause now he knows he can do it again and again
2007-04-15 12:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by future nba mom 23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact with this other person has to cease. If he goes to work the person will be there. This will drive the wife crazy. If it's a good job one of them will have to quit! I would want to know who initiated the cheating.If the person didn't like this co-worker did the other person pursue him? It was a choice by both of them anyway.......so they are both guilty. I would not forgive the cheater unless he was truely sorry and not just sorry that he was found out. I would have to know what kind of preventative measures he would take to prevent this from happening again. Cheating starts in the mind........what was he thinking when this all started. I would wonder if he ever gave thought to me at all and what he thought the consequenses would be if he ever got caught. He broke the trust and went against his commitment in his marriage. It will take him a long time to prove his worthiness to her for her to learn how to forgive him. There would be marital counseling to.It will take a lot of understanding and love to get through it. It will always hurt and the relationship will have to start over with a brand new commitment to it. The cheater has a lot of work to do if he is honestly sorry and it was a terrible mistake. The one who was cheated on is sick and heart broken and will at times think about the two of them in an intimate way. The cheater will need to give much assurance and hugs and remind her for the rest of his life that he is truely sorry that he hurt her so badly. Best Wishes
2007-04-15 20:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In marriage you have to take the good with the bad
just as in life, and everyone gets a second chance
in life when they do bad, so it is no different in
marriage, however with that said the spouse that
cheated for whatever reason now has to prove to
the other that he/she is really sorry and shows that
it will not happen again. Actions must back up their
asking for forgiveness and the other forgives, but
if it ever happens again then the cheater needs to
realize that they may loose the only one they really
had.
2007-04-15 20:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be able to stay in the relationship if this happened. To me, this would be such a show of disrespect and violation of trust. No matter the situation, when he was cheating he would know that what he was doing wrong. I couldn't be with someone who would totally disregard my feelings and our relationship.
I personally don't agree with the "it's a sign of other issues in the relationship" excuse. If there are issues, than he should be able to communicate. Communication is key to any successful relationship.
Good Luck!
2007-04-15 19:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to think that all of us need to be forgiven over something we ourselves have done to others. It depends on whether or not this was a result of a past issue between the two of you or a recent issue that he "claims" would be the reason he has cheated. Pray over it first. Then forgive even if you don't stay
2007-04-15 19:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by TargetPractice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well myself I would tell them that if they are that bored at work that the will screw someone they don't like just cause its a slow day then they should look for a more challenging job.....and while they are at if look for a good lawyer. Do you really believe his story that he doesn't really like this person? If you do...what does that say about your so called man....and how does he really feel about you? I mean if he will screw someone that he does not like for no real reason other than they are there...well it would make me wounder what I meant to them that is for sure.
2007-04-15 20:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a choice you have to make on your own. Can you forgive him and go on with your life with him? Can you trust him again? If you can answer yes to both then forgive him. If you cant then figure out why and act on it. If the tables had turned and you cheated do you think he would be able to answer then questions with a yes........................
2007-04-15 19:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by Grown Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't forgive him! It happened and that's Betrayal. It could happen again in the future if you accepted with forgiveness, and you would keep getting hurt!
Dump this Spouse and find someone who genuinely cares!
2007-04-15 19:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was sincere and you can see that he is truly sorry, I would give him another chance. But... then he must eitherget a transfer or find another job and brak all contact with this other person. Then if it happens again, I'll give him the boot, because it will just happen again and again.
2007-04-15 19:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by Zel B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make them earn back my trust, starting with ensuring that it would not happen again and working on the reasons it happened in the first place.
2007-04-15 23:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lappet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋