me and my boyfriend of a little over 2 years broke up yesterday because he wants to be able to just do what ever with out hurting me, and i relized that he isnt going anywhere in life. i feel so confused and lost. he tells me that he still loves me and that he knows that ive always been a loyal caring person to him, yet he still doesnt want to be with me. he was wondering what would happen if in a couple of weeks or months he relized that he really does need me in his life, and he showed me that he would change, and actually do something with his life, if i would take him back. i dont know what to do because i feel like i have no life with out him, yet i have a hard time trusting someone that tells you your the only one for them and that they want to spend the rest of their lives with you, then do this to me. he says that im still his best friend and that he is going to be there for me no matter what.i just dont know how to get over him and if i sould take him back if he does change
2007-04-15
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First off, you are really young! Im sure he is young too, so this is why he is feeling like he doesn't know what he wants. The best thing for you to do is be on your own and see what else is out there. If you two are truely meant to be things will work out in the future! Good luck, and I understand how you are feeling! Just spend your time with friends and family and time will heal all wounds!
2007-04-15 13:40:28
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answered by Anonymous
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If someone loves you then they love you.....there isn't a break in emotion. The chances are is that he might be interested in someones else and if it doesn't work out he wants to fall back on to you. Don't let a man hold you down from your feelings and emotions, don't stop you dreams from gowing to the place they are ment to be. Also since I'm a guy remember we arent' the brightest people in the world and many of us make mistakes that we later look back and feel we were stupid. Don't make that same mistake and just follow your heart.
2007-04-15 19:26:04
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answered by archie g 1
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Your boy friend had someone flirt with him. That's it! He can't pursue getting lucky with her if he's still with you, so this is his way of having a secondary parachute. If this one doesn't equal sex, then he knows you will at least be waiting for him. I would do the last thing he would expect! Send everything of his to him. Or drop it off or have someone dump it off to him. I mean send the message that he is sooooo gone that it will shock the living hell right out of him! If he knows his back up is gone then he won't jump! The crawling back will be hilarious! However, I wouldn't take him back. In fact I would find the cutest guy you both know and ask him out, and make sure your boy friend knows it! Guys are so freaking stupid sometimes! We need a nice wake up call back to reality! At least the next girl of his will have someone who grew up in maturity a bit!
2007-04-15 19:30:59
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answered by delux_version 7
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Here's my theory... He's got another girl already lined up. He's afraid that if that doesn't work out, you won't take him back. I don't think this guy has long-term potential. If you marry him, he will be the kind of guy who will cheat and beg for you to take him back.
My advice: avoid him like the plague. Do you best to move on. Date other guys. BE Happy! That's the best revenge.
2007-04-15 19:34:10
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answered by DJ 2
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sounds like he wants the best of both worlds- i was in a situation like this a few years ago and it sounds to me like he would be happy to have you there as long as he could do whatever he liked. dont let him do it, if he wants to end your reletionship then you have to let him know that you are not willing to stand back and watch while he decides if it is you that he wants. show him that you respect yourself more than that and when he sees that you can get on fine without him, he will probably come running back with his tail between his legs! trust me!
2007-04-15 19:28:57
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answered by kellie 2
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You need to get on with your life regardless of him-you can't be someones safety blanket. He wants to have his cake and eat it. At the end of the day, he's made his decision and now you should both get on with your lives apart. It's scary but you can't wait around, you have to move on and find your own reasons for living.
2007-04-15 19:25:58
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answered by allears 4
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Go to San Francisco, girl! There are many beautiful guys, inside n out. Treat yourself to a spa day, and hang out at a coffeehouse and meet new guys. That guys sounds like a loser, so lose his ***! Bulid yourself esteem, and ask yourself what you need and go get it! Good luck, girl!
2007-04-15 19:27:49
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answered by TantraGoddess 2
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If he has stated that he is not in love with you, then you must accept the decision and move on. You cannot make someone love you if they don't.
You can have a close friendship with a former lover, but it is often very difficult.
2007-04-15 19:24:22
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answered by khrome_wind 5
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no don't take him back cause it sounds like he is selfish cause it sounds like he wants to do an experiment if he really needs you and by doing that experimant he will hurt your heart so if anyguy is willing to hurt your heart for himself isn't the right guy for you :) and for you to get over him is to start dating other guys (p.s. don't get so attached to a guy you are dating cause guys are stupid and they may try to pull something stupid you should love the guy but you can always be without the guy so be independent)
2007-04-15 19:27:10
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answered by Anonymous
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I just seen your 360 page.
If that is your boyfriend you can do a hell of a lot better.
He looks mousy.
Good luck girl.
2007-04-15 19:45:47
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answered by psych0bug 5
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